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Grief can impact our lives in so many ways, most notably in terms of identity. Just who do we become when the important people in our lives are taken away from us? Andrea A Moore and her husband have suffered devastating losses, including that of Andrea’s sister and her husband’s mother in a short space of time. The intense mourning caused by these events greatly negatively impacted their relationship and forced Andrea to ask herself some highly personal questions. Andrea has joined Lyn today to talk about the effect of loss upon love, and the path to recovery that has helped them both become more empowered and take back their lives. KEY TAKEAWAYS During grief, communication can break down and negatively impact the intimacy between a couple. This can have a ripple effect upon everyone else around them. Andrea experienced great anger when she lost her sister. As a result, she lost sight of the fact that at the same time, her husband was slowly watching his mother pass away. This led to a level of resentment and bitterness, which only served to strain the marriage relationship further. Andrea’s husband found it difficult to express his grief, as he was conditioned by society into believing that grief is not a “manly” virtue. Counselling was a step they both decided to take.  Denial is a strong part of the process of grief. Feeling consumed by the depth of your anger, fear and sadness. The fear of how to live now that you feel more isolated. One of the most regrettable effects of a relationship breakdown, is the self-analysis that often follows, warped by a sense of what could have been, when in reality, many of those factors at the time, were out of our control. Physical grief is a real thing. Some choose to relieve themselves of pent up frustration, anger and intense grief, by lashing out at their partner. BEST MOMENTS ‘We didn’t know how to mourn. We just kept moving in different directions’ ‘I got lost in grief and forgot about my marriage’ ‘It’s almost like a movie that I wish I’d recorded’ ’The appearance of being okay is not okay’ ‘What people think about you is none of your business’ ‘Your body is grieving’ VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher   ABOUT THE GUEST Andrea is the Midwife to Women with a story, Certified Bereavement Facilitator, Intuitive Grief Coach, Anthology Builder, Speaker and International Author. She is a wife of 14 years and a mother of 3 beautiful and active children.  Andrea is the mastermind behind diverse purpose driven business From Grief to Grind. Which is an unique platform for siblings and women who have suffered a loss. Losses that buckle them down to their knees.  As Andrea supports the women she found herself helping couples as well.  Truth is their relationship suffered after a loss.  Andrea a queen in collaboration, a sibling who lost her sibling, a wife who almost lost her marriage because of grief, and a women who embraced that she is a vessel of the creator says to anyone who has been through a loss 'This is your grief journey.  Not a soul in this world has to understand.' Social media links Facebook.com/iamandreaamoore Facebook.com/fromgrieftogrind Instagram.com/iamandreaamoore Instagram.com/fromgrieftogrind Twitter.com/iamandreaamoore Linkedin.com/in/andrea-a-moore/   ABOUT THE HOST   Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.   She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.   Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.   HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.   Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.