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This week, Lyn talks to award-winning author and life coach, Fabienne Sandoval. Fabienne talks to Lyn about attachment styles, the ways in which human beings form attachments, and how these styles develop and can be managed to form healthier lasting relationships. KEY TAKEAWAYS Fabienne’s journey began a few years ago when she experienced a transformation, caused by a desire to elevate her life to a higher level. In response, she created a coaching system and authored a book, to share and support others to help them elevate their lives. Many feel the transition into the next phase of life when they reach thirty years old. It seems to be the marker that many regard as the time when adult life truly begins. Attachment styles are the way in which people perceive and respond to intimacy, specifically in the context of romantic relationships.  Attachment styles are: Secure - The feeling of security and comfort in a relationship. Anxious - Preoccupation with the relationship, and the worry that their feelings are unrequited. Avoidance - Protecting the self, the feeling that they may get hurt or that independence may be lost if they engage in a relationship. Studies have shown that around 50% of people are in the Secure category. 20% are in the Avoidance category and that 30% are a blend of Anxious and Avoidance. The best relationships are ones with complimentary attachment styles, for example a Secure style will benefit and Anxious style, as they will provide that Anxious person with the security they crave. BEST MOMENTS ’There was a key ingredient missing, and that was love’ ’Saturn is the planet that helps you grow’ ‘Having the understanding that Anxious was my attachment style allowed me to enter into relationships that would be healthier and more beneficial to me’ ‘Internally I felt quite desperate, even if I wasn’t acting on it'   VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher   ABOUT THE GUEST Fabienne Sandoval is an award-winning author and life coach. Her first book, Twenty8: The Age of Power, was awarded Best Self-Published Spiritual Book of the Year 2019 in the Soul & Spirit Book Awards. Her works have been featured in a number of publications including Kindred Spirit Magazine, Vegan Life Magazine and Mike Dooley’s The Universe Talks. Fabienne teaches busy, stressed out, professional women the secrets to transforming their lives through restoring their health, power and purpose with her 5-step Elevate coaching programme. She is the creator of Learning How To Love, a 10-day course which is featured on the Insight Timer platform, a commercially conscious platform for teachers and students. Fabienne is currently working on her sequel, Thirty: The Age of Love, where she shares her journey on learning how to love. Learning How To Love Fabienne has used findings from her ‘age of love’ to create a simple self-study 10-day course which will allow students to learn to love again, define what love means for them, and help them prepare for their greatest love story yet. The Learning How To Love online course is available through the Insight Timer platform: http://insig.ht/course_learning-how-to-love Recommended reading Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://amzn.to/2AUkUcX  Adult Attachment Questionnaire If you would like a fully validated adult attachment questionnaire, you can log on to Dr. Chris Fraley’s web-site at: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl    ABOUT THE HOST   Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.   She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.   Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.   HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.   Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.