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One of the strangest phenomenons of being a powerful, successful woman, is that men often feel intimidated by their success and power. Alongside that, many women are now choosing to focus not on love, but on the other necessities in life, such as money or career. This has led to an ever-growing trend in many women’s lives that has come to be known as being “Unintentionally Single”.  Lyn is joined by dating and relationship coach - Jenna Ponaman in this episode to discuss this trend; the ways in which it begins and the ways to either embrace it or take the steps to act upon it to change it. KEY TAKEAWAYS There are two types of 'Unintentionally Single' women. The first are those who’ve convinced themselves they don’t need a man because they’re focused on other areas of their lives. The second type is the woman who tells herself not to seek love in case she gets hurt. The thought of being rejected or not loved enough, is sometimes as scary as the fear that our partner will dislike the real us once we reveal it. Women have been parented and educated to be more assertive, independent and forceful (more in their masculine energy) in everyday life. This has led to a clash between men and women. This can be felt by men as a challenge (another masculine energy in the room) a sense of one trying to outdo the other competitiveness, which can be instantly seen as either wearing defensive armour, or having a “repel” effect. Relationships should be defined as they grow naturally, not by the experiences and advice of others. Men and women are infinitely variable creatures, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Creating polarisation between the healthy feminine and masculine energies is a good thing. It keeps the relationship alive, full of passion and fulfilment. It’s when both partners try to live in similar neutral energies, or use them from an unhealthy place of fear and not love, that the relationship starts to become at best unsatisfactory or at worst toxic. Many women blame the lack of a relationship, or bad relationships, on themselves, which can lead to self-esteem / self worth issues. We need to remind ourselves that not everything is our fault. Don’t beat yourself up. Success in love begins with loving yourself first. Self-development is like a muscle. You have to use it often in order to feel its power and receive it's positive effects. Taking three steps forward and one step back is okay, because it means you’re moving and making progress. It all starts with you. You don’t have to rush. You just have to take the time to show compassion for yourself and ask yourself what it is that you truly want. Discover that and everything else will fall into place. BEST MOMENTS ‘How can I not be doing this every single day?’ ‘Who wants to be hurt? Who wants to feel pain? Nobody’ ‘Equality means equal opportunities. It doesn’t mean trying to be the same as men’ ‘I deserve to have a great, phenomenal relationship’ ‘I felt like I was getting ass-holes over and over again’ ‘Compassion is the key to connection, and you will get there' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher www.jennaponamancoaching.com Jenna’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennaponaman/?hl=en Jenna’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jennaponamancoaching Jenna’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jennaponaman   ABOUT THE GUEST Jenna is a certified Dating & Relationship Coach, author, and speaker. She helps career-driven women find love so they can build a life of happiness, intimacy, and fun, with their partner by their side to support them in every which way. She loves supporting women to create truly thriving romantic relationships, build self-love, and step into their lives authentically and empowered.   If she is not at the gym or traveling as far as she can to explore and stuff her face with multi-cultural foods, usually you can find her at home being an overbearing fur mom to her huskies, or shamelessly jamming out to N’SYNC. ABOUT THE HOST   Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.   She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.   Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.   HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.   Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.