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Sometimes it’s valuable to get the male perspective. This week, Lyn chats to entrepreneur and author Rob Smallbone, who joins the podcast today for a frank and candid conversation around the relationship issues he’s had in the past, the effects of travel upon his love life and his hopes for the future when it comes to love. KEY TAKEAWAYS Rob’s past experiences left him angry and close-minded, but through a lengthy period of travel, he found himself, while also discovering much about relationships, the world and the way it works. For the past few years, Rob has co-habited with a female housemate, which has given him an entirely new perspective on the opposite sex. Don’t make mountains out of molehills - petty arguments all chip away slowly at the foundations of a relationship, and half the time aren’t worth bothering about. Men often think that women are hard work, when that’s not necessarily true. There’s just a vast difference in the way we think, and it needs to be understood. Rob’s relationship triangle theory works on the principle that many couples begin at the base with work and life, then work up to a single point, whether that’s marriage or children etc. But by beginning with the single point at the base of the triangle, our relationship(s) can spread out to encompass work and life. Rob admits that the effects of his parents’ divorce have damaged his outlook on relationships, and makes it hard for him to develop relationships with new potential partners. Learning from our own mistakes as well as those made by others, and doing our best to ensure that we don’t repeat those mistakes, is the best way to find true love and happiness. Men are unfortunately more prone to bottling up their emotions due to the inbuilt conditioning of our forefathers, who said that we must be strong, stoic and overly masculine. But showing vulnerability from a healthy masculine state can be very attractive, and can lead to a stronger relationship. BEST MOMENTS ‘I’m the common denominator’ ‘As a man, the less we talk, the less crap we get ourselves into’ ‘As love grows, it goes outwards’ ’There is no harm in making mistakes in our lives, that's how we learn and grow' ‘You do deserve to be loved' ‘As with anything balance is important'   VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher The Property Nomads Website The Property Nomads Podcast – iTunes The Property Nomads - Stitcher Buy To Let: How To Get Started – By Rob Smallbone (Amazon)   ABOUT THE HOST   Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.   She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.   Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.   HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.   Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.