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The Queen of HEARTS, Lyn Smith, talks to Phoenix Singh PhD, a behavioural profiling expert, who talks to Lyn on the subject of human connection and the differences between men and women. KEY TAKEAWAYS Phoenix believes that we are in an exciting time when it comes to gender in that the roles of a partner in a relationship can be more easily and personally defined than in times before. But there is a small danger of the masculine qualities sometimes being seen as negative and things to be afraid of instead of respected and appreciated. The 'differences' between men and women are very unique and special & should be celebrated. There are undeniable biological 'differences' between genders and instead of trying to be the 'same', we should recognise that some elements of gender will always be 'different'. Phoenix’s approach to the subject of perceived negative, unhealthy, aggressive masculinity is not for men to self-feminise, but to be their healthy masculine - in an assertive polite way. As he puts it, make sure you leave every woman better than when you found her. There seems to be a preconception, especially amongst millennial's, that a relationship will somehow fix a part of your life that is in disrepair. Being single is almost seen as being an affliction. But a relationship is not a prerequisite in life, there are many joys to be found in being single.  Lyn and Phoenix, strongly believe that compartmentalising our identities can sometimes be a fruitless exercise. How do we define which element of ourselves is the most important to define? Is it our sexuality? Our religion? Our racial background? Our gender?  The rise of social media means that most people are not communicating effectively in terms of utilising the body’s built in sensors and receptors; namely those that deal with vocal and visual stimulus. As a result, these receptors are growing weaker, which leaves us in danger of being far less social in our real-life interactions. BEST MOMENTS ‘Effective human connection is being lost’ ‘I think that there’s a lot of cultural messaging these days’ ‘Equality for me means 'equal opportunities' not being the same as a man’ ‘A lot of people will adopt the same title but it will mean very different things’ ‘Everyone should have the freedom to put their skills on display’ ‘We can’t feel healthy love without feeling respect’ ‘We can’t have wisdom without experience’ ‘We are literally training our brains to be less effective at socialising’ ‘A lot of technology is like a sweetener; it looks like sugar and it tastes like sugar, but it ain’t sugar’   VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher The Model Man   ABOUT THE GUEST Jay Phoenix Singh, PhD is the Chief Matchmaker and Attraction Acceleration Coach for The Model Man. A Fulbright Scholar, faculty at both UPenn as well as Cambridge, and the internationally award-winning Founder of the Global Institute of Forensic Research (successful 2017 exit as CEO), he is a behavioural profiling expert who has authored over 75 peer-reviewed publications and books after completing his graduate doctoral studies in psychiatry at the University of Oxford and clinical psychology at Universitat Konstanz. He was named the youngest tenured Full Professor in Norway in 2014, and since this time has become the only psychologist to have lectured for all eight Ivy League universities (Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia, Cornell, Brown, Dartmouth, UPenn) as well as Oxford and Cambridge. A popular guest on both national and local television and radio, Dr. Singh's work has been featured in leading newspapers such as The Washington Post and magazines such as People. Contact Phoenix on services@themodelman.com or at drphoenixsingh@gmail.com ABOUT THE HOST   Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.   She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.   Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.   HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.   Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.