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The Gay Guide To Attracting A Relationship, Interview with Amari Ice - The Prince of Hearts  Cause and effect “Your partner is like the consequence (/ effect); the cause is you giving yourself love and letting yourself have it.”  In this episode of the HEARTS Entwined Podcast, Lyn interviews Amari Ice, a matchmaker for the gay community and international best-selling author of Lasting Love At Last. Everybody can learn from today’s conversation, especially those who seek lasting love. Discover how to attract the relationship you’ve always dreamed of and make it last. They also talk about self-love, the masculine and feminine energy that's in every individual, the effects of four brain chemicals, the law of attraction, and much much more.  KEY TAKEAWAYS  How can you be successful in your relationship?   Get clear on what your goals are and what you need from a partner to be happy.  You need some effective skills, only 20% of the relationship is the strategy 80% of it is your mindset.  Take pleasure in the dating process.  Just like in our careers, we develop and progress when we invest our time and energy in learning and implementing some effective skills.  Every individual has both masculine and feminine energy, it’s important to know when and how to use each one. There are also four chemicals in our brain which dictate what we look for in relationships, they are testosterone, oestrogen, serotonin and dopamine  Testosterone - Directors - they have traditional masculine energy traits Oestrogen - Negotiators - they have traditional feminine energy traits Serotonin - Builders – they like consistency, peace, stability Dopamine - Explorers – they like adventures, fun, new experiences  We all have a more dominant chemical type regardless of our sexual orientation / gender which means Directors and Negotiators are attracted to each other (their polar opposites). Builders are attracted to other Builders and Explorers are attracted to other Explorers (people who are the 'same' as them) We attract the person with the same vibrational frequency as ours. So, if we elevate our frequency, we also elevate the quality of the partner we attract.  BEST MOMENTS  “Clarity is the only thing that brings clarity.”  “What are the beliefs you have around love? If your beliefs don’t equal a happy relationship, they are getting in your way.”  “The soil you plant the seed in determines how the seed grows.”  “You need to be an equal frequency partner to the partner you want to attract.”  “If you take control and make sure that you’re the best lover you can be, you will attract the best lover for you.”  “If you get really good at dating, it’s inevitable that you will find the love of your life.”  VALUABLE RESOURCES  Ted Talk | Helen Fisher: The Brain In Love  Why Him? Why Her? How to Find and Keep Lasting Love by Helen Fisher  ABOUT THE GUEST  Amari’s coaching and matchmaking philosophy is founded on his twelve-step Relationship Process, which he outlines in his best-selling book, Lasting Love at Last: The Gay Guide to Attracting the Relationship of Your Dreams. Through his book, live workshops and coaching programs, Amari provides single gay men with a proven method to initiate and navigate romantic interactions.  Amari has worked with over 500 gay men, and his expertise and experience have helped clients in all relationship phases get clear about their needs and develop the mindset and skills necessary to make love last. Before launching his coaching and matchmaking enterprise, Amari Means Love, he spent over a decade leading organizations and programs designed to empower the LGBTQ community.  Amari received an MBA in marketing from Strayer University after studying communication, culture, and psychology at Howard University. He lives in Northern Virginia with his partner and their cat.  Website www.amarimeanslove.com   e-book www.lastingloveatlast.com   VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher ABOUT THE HOST  Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert  Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.  She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.  Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.  HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.  Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.  CONTACT METHOD   Email Lyn at lyn@hearts-entwined.com.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.