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Award winning author and life-coach Fabienne Sandoval, joins Lyn once more to talk more about Attachment Styles and how they link to Masculine and Feminine energy. Fabienne explains that there are three main Attachment Styles and each of these can be linked to healthy / unhealthy Masculine and Feminine energy. This is a fascinating conversation that will empower anyone who is open to understanding themselves by identifying their own current attachment style and energy. KEY TAKEAWAYS Attachment Styles are the way in which people perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships.  There are three Attachment Styles: Anxious - Preoccupation with the other person, more heavily invested in the relationship. Concerned about love being reciprocated (primarily when we're in unhealthy feminine energy) Avoidance - Protecting the self, feeling that we may get hurt. Equating intimacy with a loss of independence. A guarded style (primarily when we're in unhealthy masculine energy) Secure - Comfortable with intimacy. Typically warm and loving. The feeling of security and being safe (primarily when our man's in his healthy masculine energy and we're in our healthy feminine energy) Due to the shifting roles in modern society, women are becoming more accustomed to using their masculine energy, and conversely, men are also becoming more accustomed to using their feminine energy. This creates a 'neutral energy' which can be great for friendships but not so great for romantic relationships. We need the extreme polarities of the masculine and feminine energies to be present to create attraction. If a man feels a woman's exuding masculine energy he's generally not going to be attracted to her. Most of the time, this is not a conscious thing. It is simply felt on an instinctual level. If you are happy in your healthy masculine / feminine energy, then you will be attracted to someone who’s exuding the opposite energy. If you're a woman who wants to exude more healthy feminine energy then relinquishing control and 'letting go' of the need to control is a vital step. Most women are naturally feminine at their core. It’s just that we’ve forgotten how to be our natural feminine selves. We’ll always feel a little outside of our comfort zone if we’re doing something new, but to attract / create true love, it’s highly advisable for women to at least try to live more in their natural healthy feminine energy if they want to bring out more healthy masculinity in their men. BEST MOMENTS ‘You do always typically think that guys are masculine and women are feminine’ ‘Women default into their masculine energy from a sense of needing to protect themselves' ’The unhealthy masculine energy is the one that’s very controlling, domineering and possessive’ ‘It’s the polarisation of energies that creates the passion in relationships’ VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher ABOUT THE GUEST Fabienne Sandoval is an award-winning author and life coach. Her first book, Twenty8: The Age of Power, was awarded Best Self-Published Spiritual Book of the Year 2019 in the Soul & Spirit Book Awards. Her works have been featured in a number of publications including Kindred Spirit Magazine, Vegan Life Magazine and Mike Dooley’s The Universe Talks. Fabienne teaches busy, stressed out, professional women the secrets to transforming their lives through restoring their health, power and purpose with her 5-step Elevate coaching programme. She is the creator of Learning How To Love, a 10-day course which is featured on the Insight Timer platform, a commercially conscious platform for teachers and students. Fabienne is currently working on her sequel, Thirty: The Age of Love, where she shares her journey on learning how to love. Learning How To Love Fabienne has used findings from her ‘age of love’ to create a simple self-study 10-day course which will allow students to learn to love again, define what love means for them, and help them prepare for their greatest love story yet. The Learning How To Love online course is available through the Insight Timer platform: http://insig.ht/course_learning-how-to-love Recommended reading Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://amzn.to/2AUkUcX  Adult Attachment Questionnaire If you would like a fully validated adult attachment questionnaire, you can log on to Dr. Chris Fraley’s web-site at: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl www.fabiennesandoval.com   ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.