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Feeling that your man is not ready to commit can be frustrating and leave you seriously in doubt about yourself and your desirability but is he really a commitment-phobe or is it that you need some ideas to handle the situation in a different way? In this episode, Lyn explores why your man maybe resisting commitment and what you can do to change things, so listen in now to find out more. KEY TAKEAWAYS How do commitment problems develop? For everyone it’s usually as a result of prior life experiences. For example - being rejected as a child may have left him feeling unable to provide the emotional support you need, he may feel he's not worthy or good enough and that if he commits, you might find this out later on and reject him. You and your man may just have different priorities and preferences at this point in time. It can be difficult to recognise and even more challenging to accept this. It's important to be able to have this type of conversation so that you can work out what’s best for both of you. He may not even be aware that he is resisting. Many of these behaviours have their roots in our subconscious thoughts and are linked to events that happened a long time ago. What do you need to do in this situation? Men need space and time, if you are constantly dropping hints about commitment he will have got the message and feel pressurised, the more he feels this the more he is likely to resist and move away from the whole idea. The best thing you can do is back off and don’t mention it. Instead prioritise yourself, show him that you can be an amazing person with or without him It is possible for you and your man to come through this and out the other side feeling stronger than ever. Many couples have done this and you can too. BEST MOMENTS ‘You’ll be hoping he’s going to change’ ‘It’s important to consider alternative points of view’ ‘You and your man may just have different priorities and preferences at this point in time’ ‘It may be that he is just not as invested in the relationship as you’ ‘Often he’ll just be looking to avoid something that scares him’ ‘When you back off, he will feel free from the pressure and see any future idea of commitment as coming from him’  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.