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Lyn talks to psychotherapist. hypnotherapist and coach Janine Wirth, about the importance of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, especially at the beginning of a relationship, when we can sometimes feel the urge to give and forgive more than perhaps is appropriate or reasonable, which can then set a precedent for how the relationship progresses.  KEY TAKEAWAYS We can sometimes be blinded by our feelings especially at the outset of a new relationship when the butterflies and emotional responses are at their height. We must, however, hold fast and set the tone for the way we wish to be treated thereafter. You should not be adverse to being firm on your standards and even risk rocking the boat at the beginning of the dating phase. Stand up for the things that are important to you. People will accept and respect your boundaries and if not, then they are not the right person for you. People sometimes feel so comfortable in a relationship that the respect between partners can suffer. It's worth taking a look at whether you're taking each other for granted and check in with each other on a regular basis. Many do not have the self-awareness to recognise when they are treating others in an unacceptable way. Developing the ability to perceive the consequences of our actions is imperative for maintaining respect. BEST MOMENTS 'It's important to set the tone of a relationship right from the beginning' 'When people don't make it clear in the beginning, it can lead to problems later on' 'You need to treat the person you have a relationship with as a highly respected colleague' 'Be supportive but in a way where you're not feeling used or being taken advantage of' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher ABOUT THE GUEST Janine Wirth aka "the trauma whisperer" is an internationally-recognised trauma expert, licensed psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist and coach specialising in helping women heal from unresolved trauma and emotional baggage without spending years in therapy. She speaks about her own healing journey after surviving a hijacking, kidnapping and attempted rape at gunpoint at age 18. Her mission is to help women make the connection between emotional baggage and how it shows up later in life through symptoms like binge eating, self-sabotage, procrastination etc and how that affects our romantic relationships, how we parent and even how we show up in our careers. She resides in Germany with her husband and 3 children. Website: https://www.janinewirth.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/janinewirthrtt/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.