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Lyn is in conversation with, Dating and Relationship Coach and Executive Matchmaker Kelly Brandli and they are talking about THE Hot Topic - 'Dating After Divorce'.   Kelly was married for 10 years and following her own divorce and a period of recovery she quickly went straight into her next relationship with very little prior dating and although the relationship lasted for 4 years it then ended. This led Kelly to look in depth at the selection process, she then went on 92 first dates! before beginning her new and successful relationship This is a great episode full of practical advice and information about how to understand what your priorities are and how you can successfully date after divorce. Listen in to find out more... KEY TAKEAWAYS It’s vital to find someone who shares your core values It’s about understanding the different beliefs you hold and finding out if the beliefs of the other person match your own There are tools that people require to be successful when dating, navigating online dating platforms and understanding the vetting processes are key. When you are dating, your new relationship will go through a honeymoon period after which you will realise along with the things you like about the other person there are other things that you don’t. If you both decide to work through these and realise you can problem-solve together then the relationship is in a good healthy position to move forward. Before you arrange to meet someone you need to keep in mind 5 ‘must-haves’ and 2 ‘deal-breakers’ Deal-breakers should be viewed with flexibly in mind - it’s all about communication. The way you communicate is a vital skill within any relationship If you're saying a man should do something to change he will receive that as a Criticism, Complaint or Comparison, so you need to review the way you are communicating and make it - not about him - but about what you want from a relationship. It’s vital to be conscious of where you are in your life, and to take responsibility for it. You come to a new relationship with all the complexities, experiences and baggage of an established adult life Start looking at your priorities and how you manage your wants and needs. Go through your priorities so you know exactly what you are looking for in a new relationship. BEST MOMENTS ‘I have a lot of dating experience to share about the beginning phase’ ‘You can get caught up in the lust and forget about the selection process’ ‘It’s about thinking before you open your mouth and not using the ‘you’ word’   VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast -Apple Podcasts (iTunes) -Spotify -Stitcher   ABOUT THE GUEST Kelly Brändli is a Scientific Dating and Relationship Coach, certified Matchmaker, speaker and workshop presenter who lives in Zürich, Switzerland.  Kelly supports clients around the globe to rekindle failing relationships or to start over and get back into the dating scene following divorce. As a past Executive Headhunter and Business Coach she has successfully supported and coached hundreds of people through new and many times difficult relationships for over a decade. Her philosophy is that no matter how much anxiety, sadness, relationship difficulties, frustration or loss of hope you currently have in your life, you can rebound and heal yourself to find and keep a fulfilling relationship full of love, joy and true happiness! CONTACT METHOD To learn more about Kelly Brändli you can visit www.kellybrandli.com or follow her on Facebook (Kelly Brandli Coaching) or Instagram (KellyBrandli) where she regularly posts insightful dating and relationship advice.   ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert   Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul-fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.  Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.   CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.