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Imagine a friend or loved one comes to see you with a problem. They are wrestling with a dilemma.
\\nShould I stay where I am at in my current job, or should I take a risk and take a new job?
\\nShould I break up with my current boyfriend or girlfriend?
\\nShould we be open to moving cities, to starting all over again?
\\nSomebody offended me. Should I talk to the person, or do I let it go?
\\nThey are open to your advice. They are seeking your wisdom. Now further imagine that having heard their take on their dilemma, you have an opinion on the merits of what they might do.
\\nHow we can be most helpful to the person who turns to us?
\\nAdam Grant, a professor at Penn, recently posted a teaching about the difference between what he calls good mentors and great mentors:
\\nGood mentors share lessons from their experience. Great mentors help you crystallize lessons from your experience.
\\nGood mentors give useful answers. Great mentors help you ask better questions.
\\nGood mentors walk you through their path. Great mentors help you identify your path.
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