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b'We\\u2019re talking about good-enough responding - responding to our partner in ways that keep us connected even when we disappoint them.\\xa0Think about when a withdrawer finally comes forward; while their pursuing partner may long for whatever they\\u2019re offering, the same pursuer most likely feels doubt and mistrust about the sincerity of their withdrawing partner or the evidence that this is a start of a change pattern.\\xa0George is so confident that mistrust is going to be present at this stage - he calls it a natural part of the change process.\\xa0So of course - the pursuer doesn\\u2019t reward their withdrawer with success for initiation and guess what? - the withdrawing partner backs away. Fail. But what if there were a way to find a secondary target, a secondary path to stay connected.\\xa0George and Laurie discuss how you can target a lesser but important target (other than true responsiveness); you can give permission for you partner\\u2019s defensive/protective move - you can let them know it makes sense to you. As hard as it seems to do, validating your partner\\u2019s defense actually helps them feel seen by you and keeps you in connection.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'