Why Self-Leadership is More Effective Than Being Held Accountable

Published: Oct. 4, 2022, 5:30 p.m.

b"How do you feel about accountability? Like it, love it, want some more of it?\\n\\nOr maybe it\\u2019s like medicine to you \\u2014 icky but necessary.\\n\\nHold on to your booty, cause I\\u2019ve got an opinion on it too. \\n\\nI think it\\u2019s a made-up practice that got a \\u201cvirtue\\u201d sticker slapped on it. I think it arrests our development into emotional adulthood. In fact, I\\u2019d say accountability does more harm than good. \\n\\nAnd it can never match the power of internal motivation for true, lasting life change.\\n\\nChristian accountability conditions us to believe:\\n\\n- We are helpless and foolish\\n- We don\\u2019t have the capacity for self-motivation or self-leadership\\n- We have to be externally motivated by something outside of ourselves (like pain or the humiliation of confessing our faults/sins/failures)\\n- We can't make our own decisions\\n- We have to get guidance from and obey other people (who usually have penises)\\n- We are flirting with danger if we think independently\\n\\nListen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/191\\n\\nFREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.)\\n\\nDesperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com\\n\\nAnd, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com"