Podcasts Kids & Family Parenting Don't Mom Alone Podcast Grace Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150]

Grace Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150]

Published: Jan. 27, 2017, 10:03 p.m.

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I know I should parent with grace (a.k.a. \\u201cunmerited favor\\u201d). But I struggle with\\xa0how to combine grace &\\xa0discipline.

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When a little guy smacks his brother upside the head, I don\\u2019t want to ignore it\\xa0or\\xa0explode over it. But I could use some help\\xa0with alternative responses to be \\u201cmy best when my kids are at their worst\\u201d.

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This week\\u2019s guest,\\xa0Karis Kimmel Murray, grew up in the original grace-based home. Her father, Dr. Tim Kimmel, literally wrote the book on\\xa0grace-based parenting.** As a mom to two girls, Karis knows the challenges of showing both unmerited favor and appropriate boundaries. Particularly since one of her daughters has been diagnosed with ADHD. (I adore reading parenting books by moms who\\xa0get it!).

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In this episode Karis and I talk through some practical ways to approach misbehavior, like her \\u201cBasket Method\\u201d and \\u201cThe 10 Year Rule\\u201d.

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\\u201cThose behaviors come from your child but they don\\u2019t define your child. It\\u2019s not who they are it\\u2019s what they are doing right now.\\u201d

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We also talk about discovering how each family member\\xa0is wired, using their\\xa0Kid\\u2019s Flag system. And being clear about the rules and expectations in your home. Not making household preferences on par with Biblical/moral law. Her analogy of being a calm \\u201cfirst responder\\u201d will stick with me.

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Fortunately, Karis has written all these tips and concepts down in a very relatable and hilarious\\xa0guide called, \\u201cGrace-Based Discipline\\u201d.

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  • The 10-year rule
  • The theology of parenting
  • Legalism vs. License vs. Grace
  • Karis\\u2019 fun \\u201cmathematician\\u201d analogy
  • Handling discipline crises like first responders
  • The Basket Strategy
  • What does atonement have to do with discipline?
  • What country flag does each family member fly?
  • Clarifying family rules
  • Differentiating household rules from moral/Biblical rules
  • Karis\\u2019 daughter\\u2019s diagnosis of ADHD and how it impacted discipline
  • The level of offense and the \\u201csushi menu\\u201d of consequences
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