"It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill” Epectitus
Many of tend to spend good deal of time thinking about and trying to change other people to make our lives better and easier, when in fact changing ourselves to make the lives of others better is a far more noble, virtuous and rewarding goal. The irony is, that when we do the work on ourselves so we can show up for others, we inadvertently increase the quality and satisfaction on our own life!