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Hey parents,\\xa0

How much do your daughter\\u2019s friendships influence HER attitude, mood and motivation?

As a parent and teen coach I hear a lot of stories about how other people\\u2019s actions and reactions seem to affect my client\\u2019s well-being.

Of course, it\\u2019s natural for connection seeking teens to be influenced by their environment, especially their social scenarios.

The hard part is, humans, not just teenage girls, are naturally fickle.

So, if your daughter is always acting or reacting to what\\u2019s happening in her external environment, in the moment, she may feel like she\\u2019s constantly bouncing around like a ping pong ball \\u2026 up one minute, down the next.\\xa0

And truth be told, even if her wild emotions give her a boost of energy, it\\u2019s not a healthy habit she\\u2019ll want to keep around.\\xa0

Heads Up

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

This is the second podcast of a three-part series where we\\u2019re diving deeper into what it looks like to develop your daughter\\u2019s sense of self and how she can design social scenarios that align with who she truly is or who she desires to be.\\xa0

Find the complete show notes, resources, and links to previous episodes on my website, cultivating resilient teens.com.

Before we get rolling today, I want to give you a little heads up that today\\u2019s topic, if you\\u2019re listing with your daughter, may evoke an eye roll before a head nod, and here\\u2019s why.

Most teenage girls have:

\\xb7\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0beliefs

\\xb7\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0hopes\\xa0

\\xb7\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0and expectations\\xa0

that influence how they go about creating and keeping friendships.

Unfortunately, there\\u2019s not a whole lot of information or conversation about how those beliefs, hopes and expectations come to fruition.

Though, they\\u2019re often the result of their upbringing, environment, and past social experiences.

So here\\u2019s the hard part, if your daughter isn\\u2019t aware of what her beliefs, hopes and expectations are - and how they influence her relationships - she\\u2019s going to bounce.

If she\\u2019s getting the attention that meets her expectations, she\\u2019ll bounce up.

And when she doesn\\u2019t get the reaction or response she wants, her mood will dip.

ME and WE

As you might imagine, relying on other people to moderate her mood and motivation level is exhausting, and will leave her feeling pretty powerless.\\xa0

The good news is it doesn\\u2019t have to be that way.

When your daughter is clear with her core friendship values, she\\u2019ll be able to establish a clear boundary between ME and WE.

3 Red Flags

In order to set clear boundaries, you\\u2019ll want to be aware of a few situations, or red flags, that cause things to get messy.\\xa0

You can read about the 3 Red Flags and the Simple Solution to Raising a Socially Resilient Teen on my website,\\xa0cultivatingresilientteens.com.

Keeping in Real

Like I\\u2019ve said before, ya all are what make this podcast REAL and meaningful.

Thank you for being here, for spending the time to build this community, for sharing this podcast with your friends, for trusting me to work with you and your daughter and for coming together so we can collectively empower teenage girls to build confidence integrity and resilience for all of life\\u2019s adventures.

I look forward to talking with you about \\u2018What to do When \\u2026?\\u2019 because when you have a guide to handle life\\u2019s toughest social challenges with grace and ease, you\\u2019ll feel good about your responses and eliminate the guilt and guesswork.

Until next time my friends, know that I\\u2019m thinking of you!

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Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!