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It may seem that way, as I am using the possessive adjective to describe the fact that I am childless. That my life did not turn out the way I expected it would. But the more important issue is that human beings tend to blame each other for things we cannot control. My childlessness is not my fault.

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If you are a Bible reader, you may recall the story of the man with the shriveled or withered hand. The Disciples asked Jesus if it was his parent\'s fault or his, why his hand was withered. Jesus\\u2019 answer was \\u2018it\\u2019s nobody\\u2019s fault.\\u2019

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Be honest, have you never wondered to yourself \\u2018what in the world did he/she do to deserve that?\\u2019 when you see something bad, horrible, or horrific happen to someone. You may have even heard someone verbalize it as \\u2018karma\\u2019, or \\u2018what goes around comes around\\u2019. As human beings, we figure it\\u2019s just payback.

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But isn\\u2019t it possible that stuff just happens? Don\\u2019t we live in a world where stuff really just happens? I believe we do. Yes, I believe to an extent that what goes around comes around. That we should treat people the way we would want to be treated. But we all know that it rains on the just and the unjust. The difference though is how we manage the cards we have been dealt. In fact, having or obtaining the tools for managing the cards we have been dealt. \\xa0\\xa0

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I believe one of those tools for any problem or issue you or I have, is community. I strongly believe that when we belong to a community of strong, positive, people who want to get better and not wallow in the self-pity of what happened to us or what did not happen for us. \\xa0

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Community protects us from those who secretly or passive-aggressively nicely tell us that we did not pray hard enough for a child. Some of us are told not to give up even though we no longer have a uterus. Indeed, some are told so even when they were born without one. I especially like the \\u2018well, it was not meant to be\\u2019. It is one of my favorites. Right up there with \\u2018you should be happy you don\\u2019t have kids, they are a lot of work\\u2019. These are the same people who tell you that \\u2018you don\\u2019t have kids, so you would not understand.\\u2019

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And sometimes these remarks come from the lips of the same person. \\u2018Be glad you don\\u2019t have kids, they are a lot of work\\u2019, and \\u2018you wouldn\\u2019t understand, you don\\u2019t have kids.\\u2019 \\xa0Which one of us seems unhinged? Because unhinged, among other things, is what many childless women are called. And God forbid if we are also single. Then we are weird, overzealous with our nieces and nephews, lonely, clingy, needy, or mean.

Society says that\\u2019s why we did not get married or have children: We chose the career over the kid, or as a friend of my mom once told her, I was too picky. Mind you, this woman couldn\\u2019t pick me out in a crowd. She knew nothing about me, but she knew I was being too picky and that is why I never married.

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Well, regardless of the cards we have been dealt, I believe we can all be weird, overzealous with the children in our lives, clingy, needy, picky, or mean! After all, we are all human beings first, and none of us are what has happened to us or what did not happen for us, however. \\xa0

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So the next time your initial response is to blame someone for their \\u2018condition\\u2019, do a quick self-check and remind yourself \\u2018it\'s not my fault it\\u2019s not your fault. Stuff happens.\\u2019 \\xa0How we deal our cards is what sets us apart.

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Blog:

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/my-childlessness-is-not-my-fault/

Articles of note:

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https://drsuetalks.blogspot.com/2018/07/should-fertility-clinics-deny-treatment.html

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Until next time! Bye!

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\\u2018To recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.\\u2019

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\\u2018Spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life\\u2019.