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Do you ever wonder why your relationships start out great but then turn into a confusing, one-sided mess that leaves you scratching your head and wondering Why do I ALWAYS attract these people?\\xa0

\\xa0Maybe you even feel torn between the desire to see it through and the urge to run for the hills.\\xa0

\\xa0Today, I\\u2019m going to explain in detail why your greatest life strength is likely your worst relationship weakness AND give you the three steps needed to stop being taken advantage of by these parasitic, freeloaders.\\xa0

\\xa0Understanding this one problem will help you recognize why your relationships aren\\u2019t as mutually beneficial as you\\u2019d hoped.\\xa0

\\xa0So what is it?\\xa0

\\xa0It\\u2019s being solution-oriented, better known as problem-solving.

\\xa0You may be thinking, Kris, that\\u2019s a great quality to have. How could it possibly cause such a problem?\\xa0

\\xa0I get it. As a solution-oriented person myself, I don\\u2019t like to waste time blaming others or wallowing in self-pity. If you\\u2019re anything like me, you don\\u2019t crumble under pressure\\u2014you get things done!

\\xa0And that is an amazing quality that many people will be drawn to. Including toxic, dependent, leeching, narcissists.

\\xa0Are you seeing the problem?\\xa0

While problem solving is an amazing quality, hen it comes to relationships, your \\u2018solution\\u2019 focus can actually BE the problem.

\\xa0You have a God-given gift of knowing what to do in each situation. And you likely derive joy in helping others solve their problems. But that\\u2019s where the true problem comes in\\u2014when you find yourself solving the same problems for the same people, and that incredible strength that you once felt so good about now has made you feel used.

\\xa0Your relationships aren\\u2019t mutually beneficial, and it\\u2019s draining the life out of you.\\xa0

\\xa0Your solution-seeking gift is attracting nothing but problem-oriented people like a magnet.\\xa0

\\xa0Why? Because, the dynamic works perfectly together. Solution-oriented people don\\u2019t feel alive unless they are solving problems, so it makes sense that they would be drawn to people who need help.

And of course the problem-oriented person would be attracted to the solution-seeking person because well, they need solutions.

\\xa0But the bigger problem is they only want your solutions in theory. They have no interest in using your divine wisdom to pull themselves out of the rut\\u2014they expect you to do that. They have no interest in being responsible for their own success\\u2014they\\u2019ll rely on you for that.

\\xa0And because it\\u2019s impossible for you to play that role for long, ultimately you are seen as the problem. Yett because solutions are what you do best, you stay in the trenches until 5, 10, or 20 years go by and you\\u2019ve wasted your precious gift on someone who squandered it.\\xa0

\\xa0At this point, you\\u2019re probably wondering if you\\u2019ve got to squash your solution superpower. The answer is, absolutely not! We need you problem solvers.\\xa0

\\xa0But if you do want to flourish in mutually beneficial relationships, you are going to want to harness that strength of yours.

\\xa0Here\\u2019s how:\\xa0

1. Assess the problem: If you\\u2019ve determined that the people in your life have a problem for every solution, it may be time to stop casting your pearls before pigs (Matthew 7:6).\\xa0
2. Assess the person. Your solution super power may be ready to aid every needy victim who manipulates you for help but before you offer your gift, examine the fruit. If it\\u2019s someone you\\u2019ve had history with and they\\u2019ve shown no fruit from previous solutions