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Have you ever tried to speak to someone who spoke a different language than you?

Maybe you\\u2019re really patient at first but the more you realize that it\\u2019s not helping, the more frustrated you get.

\\xa0You likely start talking s-l-o-w-e-r. Maybe you even start yelling, as if a higher decibel is going to change the fact that they can\\u2019t understand you.

\\xa0The same is true for a narcissist who doesn\\u2019t interpret things the same way you do. Yes, they may speak the language. But what you say and what they hear are two completely different things.

\\xa0The truth is, no amount of repeating, yelling, or rehashing that is going to change what they hear. I know you want to treat others with love, patience, and kindness. But something just feels off\\u2014like they\\u2019re not getting it.

\\xa0That\\u2019s because they don\\u2019t. They have a language all their own and if what you say doesn\\u2019t match what they want to hear, you\\u2019re going to get frustrated and confused because they don\\u2019t really say what they mean or mean what they. That means what you say is up for interpretation too.

\\xa0So join me as we dive into 14 things you\\u2019ll say versus what the narcissist will hear.\\xa0

\\xa0You: You really hurt me when you said we would save money but then you took it out
of our account without talking to me. Why did you do that?

\\xa0Narcissist: You\\u2019re trying to control me. Why are you doing this to me?\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0\\xa0

\\xa0This is their way of playing the victim

\\xa0You: But you said that you wouldn\\u2019t touch the money without talking to me first.\\xa0

\\xa0Narcissist: Are you calling me a liar? Are you calling me a liar? Great, you\\u2019re calling me a liar.

\\xa0This is their way of deflecting the issue at hand, and playing the victim.

\\xa0You: I don\\u2019t want to argue with you.

\\xa0Narcissist: Of course you don\\u2019t. That\\u2019s because you know you\\u2019ll lose.

\\xa0Narcissists love to intimidate you.

\\xa0You: Are you going to put the money back so we can stay on track to get out of debt?

\\xa0Narcissist: After all the times you spent money and I didn\\u2019t say anything, I can\\u2019t believe you\\u2019re giving me a hard time about this. Maybe I shouldn\\u2019t forgive you.\\xa0

\\xa0The narcissist is always looking to take the focus off of their wrongdoing and turn it back on you.

\\xa0You: But I only spent money on necessary things for the house and kids. You took $10,000.

\\xa0Narcissist: If you weren\\u2019t so tight with the purse strings, I wouldn\\u2019t have had to go behind your back to take the money. It\\u2019s your fault.

\\xa0Blame is the narcissist\\u2019s favorite game. Nothing is ever their fault.\\xa0

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You: I would like to try and resolve this. It\\u2019s not just about the money. I\\u2019m having trouble trusting you.\\xa0

\\xa0Narcissist: No you\\u2019re not. You\\u2019re just complicating things. Why can\\u2019t you just leave well enough alone?

\\xa0Narcissists will always deny your reality. This is called gaslighting.

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You: Let\\u2019s try to move past this. I forgive you.

\\xa0Narcissist: It\\u2019s about time. Enough of this nonsense. Now we can get back to the way things were.

\\xa0They love to exploit your good nature

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You: I\\u2019m still upset about this and would like to talk about it.

\\xa0Narcissist: Since you\\u2019re upset with me, I\\u2019m going to give you the silent treatment to make you feel so uncomfortable that you come graveling back to me.

\\xa0This is their way of manipulating people

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You: I\\u2019ll love you no matter what but I re