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Conquering Codependency Biblically Online Course
https://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/

Every relationship will have its ups and downs\\u2014not just romantic relationships, but any person you\\u2019re trying to have a healthy, godly connection with. How can you tell when your relationship is dysfunctional or downright destructive?

\\xa0Hopefully you know that issues such as abuse, infidelity, substance abuse, and being secretive are examples of toxic behavior. \\xa0

\\xa0But what about the less obvious examples\\u2014the ones you just can\\u2019t put your finger on?

\\xa0 Today I want to talk to you about 8 relationship red flags that no Christian should ignore in ANY relationship.

\\xa0Before we dive in, I just want to say that there is a difference between troubled and toxic.\\xa0

Troubles can play out in a difference of opinions, personalities, and even a difference in values. Troubled people can have difficulty regulating their emotions and are likely to struggle with past and current triggers and suffer from emotional immaturity. \\xa0

\\xa0While toxic people can have many of these same struggles, it doesn\\u2019t end there.\\xa0

\\xa0While we do want to extend the same grace to troubled people that God extends to us, we also want to discern if we\\u2019re trying to treat a wolf as a sheep.

\\xa0Red Flag #1: Manipulation

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0If you\\u2019ve forgive me, you\\u2019d back off

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0If you leave, I\\u2019ll hurt myself

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0I don\\u2019t know why you don\\u2019t just trust me

\\xa0When a person is manipulative, they only have one thing on their mind--how can I get my needs met? It\\u2019s self-serving but sly.\\xa0

\\xa0Manipulation can take the form of guilt, anger, passive aggression and scripture twisting.\\xa0 \\xa0

\\xa0If someone responds with rage when you question them, they are trying to manipulate you into backing down. \\xa0

\\xa0The same is true for passive aggression. Behind the mask, passive aggressive people are extremely manipulative. They pretend to be one thing while scheming to change your behavior to suit their agenda.

\\xa0Their intent is to deceive you. And if you catch them in their lie, they will often deflect from their true motive by saying things like, I was only joking.

\\xa0Red Flag #2: Walking on Eggshells

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0It\\u2019s not just what you said, it\\u2019s how you said it. Now I\\u2019m upset. Thanks a lot.

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0Why do you have to breathe so loudly? You know it bothers me.

\\xa0In healthy relationships behaviors and communication are easy to navigate (for the most part).\\xa0

In eggshell relationships you take considerable care to avoid upsetting the other person. This often creates a dynamic of codependency as you\\u2019re constantly watching for how this person feels so you can navigate without upsetting them. It\\u2019s tense.\\xa0

\\xa0People that make you walk on eggshells are controlling. They target your mental and emotional well-being in an effort to subdue you.

\\xa0If you\\u2019re constantly scared to bring something up, or if you\\u2019re always trying to formulate what you want to say and how to say it, and are constantly met with gaslighting, blaming, or utter disregard, my friend, you have crossed a serious red flag.\\xa0

\\xa0If you find yourself a tiptoer, be sure to check out my online course Conquering Codependency biblically. https://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/

\\xa0Red Flag #3: Control\\xa0

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0I do it because I love you

-\\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0 \\xa0After all I\\u2019ve done for you, this is the least you could do for me