BROADCASTS.com

b'

Take your FREE: Am I a People Pleaser Quiz?\\xa0 Discover Your Type.
https://krisreece.com/am-i-a-people-pleaser/

Tired of feeling like a doormat, like you attract people who just take from you with no regard or concern for your wellbeing?

\\xa0Christians are often encouraged to give until it hurts. \\u201cLet people take advantage of you,\\u201d \\u201cForbear under abuse,\\u201d that\\u2019s what Jesus would want us to do, right?

\\xa0WRONG.\\xa0

There\\u2019s some serious scripture twisting and misinterpretation going on when we believe that God created us to be a doormat for others.

\\xa0Yes, we are to love and forgive and forbear\\u2014but it\\u2019s time to untwist some misconceived scriptures about what it means to set limits with others.\\xa0

\\xa0That\\u2019s why I want to show you the five signs that God is trying to show you it\\u2019s time to stop letting people walk all over you and start setting boundaries.\\xa0

\\xa0Sign #1: You\\u2019re afraid to set limits with others\\xa0

It\\u2019s not uncommon for people pleasers to see limits as unloving. Add to that the uncomfortable feelings that you\\u2019re left with that you\\u2019re letting someone down, and it\\u2019s enough to make even a border patrol agent step back in fear.\\xa0

\\xa0The truth is, your inability to set limits with others will not result in the reciprocation you long for.\\xa0

\\xa0I know you\\u2019re waiting for them to return the good deed, but it\\u2019s not going to happen.

\\xa0Setting limits is less about the \\u201chow\\u201d and more about the \\u201cwhat\\u201d. After all, you already know how to say no. Go ahead, try it. Just say the word \\u201cno\\u201d for me right now.

\\xa0See, it\\u2019s not how, it\\u2019s what that\\u2019s the hard part, but we\\u2019ll talk about that in a few.\\xa0

\\xa0Sign #2: You feel responsible for other people\\u2019s thoughts and feelings\\xa0

I understand that it feels loving to think and feel for others. But when consideration crosses into codependency, you have an unhealthy relationship dynamic.

\\xa0Feeling responsible for others\\u2019 feelings takes the responsibility off of them and puts it onto you. And guess what kind of people this trait attracts? Takers!

\\xa0There are plenty of irresponsible, lazy, immature people out there who would be more than happy to offload their personal responsibility onto you.

\\xa0And if you see it as \\u2018loving\\u2019 to take that responsibility from them, you will be loaded down like a pack mule until you\\u2019re swayback.\\xa0

\\xa0And then wonder why you\\u2019re so tired and no one appreciates you.\\xa0

\\xa0Sign #3: You fail to make clear agreements

It may seem nice on the surface to always defer to another person for their input, but it makes it difficult to actually be in a healthy, interdependent relationship with someone who can\\u2019t make their own decisions.

\\xa0God gave you unique desires, thoughts, perspectives, and preferences, all of which should contribute to a wonderful relationship dynamic.\\xa0

\\xa0The problem comes in when the other person doesn\\u2019t value what you bring to the table. Instead of letting that knock you back, let it be an indication of the potential problem in the relationship.

\\xa0Just remember\\u2014having a problem in your relationship doesn\\u2019t mean that you ARE the problem.\\xa0

\\xa0Sign #4: You have no time for God

If I had a nickel for every time a people pleaser has defended why they don\\u2019t have time for God by saying they are too busy doing HIS work by serving others, I\\u2019d be a very rich woman.\\xa0

\\xa0Yes, we are called to serve others, but not at the expense of what God has entrusted you to steward. That includes your time, talent, and treasures.

\\xa0Blaming others for taking your time doesn\\u2019t take you off the hook. It puts you on the hook for setting better boundaries.\\xa0

\\xa0It\\u2019s true that life can get busy and there