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In this episode we explore a method to help us avoid becoming angry when others criticize us or say hurtful things. We can learn to become an observer rather than becoming entangled with others\u2019 actions. Further, we can become an observer of our own thoughts and feelings instead of being controlled by them.\xa0

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If someone says you talk too much it\u2019s not about you, it\u2019s about them. It\u2019s a reflection of the weather inside their mind. If their mind is clear and peaceful like a blue sky, their words and actions reflect that. But if their mind is stormy with anxiety or anger, their words are like the lightning and thunder\u2014they aren\u2019t about you.

Ancient is this [saying], O Atula,\xa0

It is not just of today:\xa0

They find fault in one sitting silently,\xa0

They find fault in one speaking much,\xa0

They find fault in one speaking moderately. No one in this world is not found at fault. (227)*\xa0

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No person can be found\xa0

Who has been, is, or will be\xa0

Only criticized\xa0

Or only praised. (228)\xa0

\u2014Buddha, The Dhammapada\xa0

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Links and References

Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp.60.

Je Tsongkhapa. Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 2. Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor, pp 165-166.