This episode explores the question \u201cWhere does anger come from?\u201d Buddhist teacher, JoAnn Fox, also provides several practical ways to prevent anger from arising (when it typically would)!\xa0
Anger doesn\u2019t come from another person or a situation. Anger comes from our thoughts. Specifically, when we pay inappropriate attention to an unpleasant object and dwell on its faults, we work ourselves up until anger arises. That point at which anger is manifest is when the mind is unpeaceful and uncontrolled.\xa0
A very sad aspect of anger is that this mental state has the wish to harm. The intention to harm is the nature of anger, just as the nature of fire is to burn. We don\u2019t want to harm those we love and cherish, but when we\u2019re angry that mind wants to harm them. That makes Buddha\u2019s advice to turn \u201c away from the intent to harm\u201d and not \u201cset anger loose\u201d so important for all our relationships.\xa0
The first step in solving an anger problem is to admit we have one and decide we must do something about it. Lama Zopa Rinpoche gave this advice to a person who worked as a driver for a Dharma center. The driver complained of being very angry with his family and asked Rinpoche for some mantras to help him. Lama Zopa\u2019s response began:
\u201cMy dear one,
You have recognized that anger arising is not good and that you must do something about it. You\u2019re responsible for stopping that problem. Even this is progression toward peace and happiness.\u201d
How beautiful and powerful is this first discovery and the wish to change!
One should not strike a brahmin\xa0
And a brahmin should not set [anger] loose.\xa0
Shame on the one who hits a brahmin\xa0
And greater shame on the one who sets [anger] loose. (389)*\xa0
For the brahmin, nothing is better\xa0
Than restraining the mind\xa0
From what it cherishes.\xa0
Whenever one turns away from the intent to harm,\xa0
Suffering is allayed. (390)
\u2014Buddha, The Dhammapada
Reference with Link
Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 78\xa0(Link)
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