How to Stop Others From MISTREATING You, Let Go of TOXIC People & Heal from BETRAYAL | Najwa Zebian

Published: Oct. 27, 2021, 12:30 p.m.

b"If you\\u2019re a human, you\\u2019ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want?\\nHow often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person.\\xa0\\n\\nNajwa\\u2019s Questions for Self-Acceptance:\\n1. Who are you?\\n2. Why do I believe what I believe?\\n3. Why do I live my life the way that I do?\\n4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z?\\n5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain?\\xa0\\n\\n\\u201cWhen you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless\\u201d -Najwa Zebian\\xa0\\n\\nSHOW NOTES:\\xa0\\nGaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40]\\nHomeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37]\\nToxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn\\u2019t mean you\\u2019re owed anything, that\\u2019s toxic [9:47]\\nProof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03]\\nSelf-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you\\u2019ve created for life [19:56]\\nSelf-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you\\u2019re accepting [25:59]\\nIdentity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59]\\nBeing Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30]\\nVulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24]\\nUnwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56]\\nSelf-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36]\\xa0\\n\\nCheck out our sponsors:\\xa0\\nAthletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!\\nBlinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.\\nBest Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self.\\n\\nAre You Ready for EXTRA Impact?\\nCalling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!\\xa0\\nWomen of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits:\\n\\nNew episodes delivered ad-free\\n\\nExclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!\\xa0\\n\\nSubscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly.\\n\\nLooking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.\\xa0\\n\\nWant to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.\\xa0\\n\\n\\nCurious about your health? We\\u2019ve got you covered in Health Hub.\\xa0\\n\\n\\nAnd of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist\\xa0\\n\\nDon't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary!\\nSubscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP\\nSubscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"