differences of opinion embittered by group hostility / Daniel Dennett\u2019s Four Steps to Arguing Intelligently / expressing respect by trying to understand the other / understanding morality requires more than citing the moral rules of scripture / sometimes good people perform bad deeds / Bhisma\u2019s progression to consequentialism / Prthu leaves it at 99 / the more we resist providence, the more we enter into the darkest region of materialistic thought / fate is the language of God / aligning one\u2019s heart with God\u2019s through full forgiveness SB 4.19.32-42