Episode 168 - The Unspoken Wounding of Men

Published: June 17, 2021, 4 a.m.

Jung\u2019s earliest dream, at age three or four, preoccupied him all his life, \u201cin an underground chamber, a giant phallus stood erect on a golden throne.\u201d Majestic and luminous, it struck him with terror that intensified as his mother\u2019s voice cried out in warning. Phallos, the central archetype of a man's psyche, was once worshipped as sacred. Its urgent, dynamic, and fertilizing power was split off with the rise of ascetic monotheism and banished to the unconscious. Misplaced and maligned, it surfaces as resentful passivity, fear of passion, confusion of values, and reluctance to take action. Phallos is neither reducible to physicality nor synonymous with the patriarchal structures that have alienated men from their vulnerabilities and locked entire cultures into rigid hierarchies. When properly understood, Phallos can revitalize a man\u2019s spirit and set him in vigorous relationship to himself and others. When wounded, it palls his potential.

Here\u2019s the dream we analyze:

\u201cI\u2019m in a taxi, on my way to an old friend\u2019s wedding on the high street where I live. I had on a great suit which everybody loved, but I had forgotten my tie. I realized I didn\u2019t have time to go back home, so I went into the back room of a thrift shop which only had a selection of boring ties. As I came out, the shop was filling up with wedding guests. Then I found myself in a different, very gloomy, very cluttered thrift shop with no windows or seemingly a door. In it was a blonde woman, who I asked about ties. She pointed to a corner, and I found a couple more boring ties. I picked them up and laid them on a circular, cluttered table to get a better look in the gloom. I then realized on the table was a larger pile of ties, and to my astonishment, they were ones I had once owned but must have given away to the shop years earlier, still lying there. I told the woman, but she just shrugged. I went through them and found my favorite, which was a dark background with white circles on it. It wasn\u2019t perfect, but it would have to do.\u201d

RESOURCES:

Learn to Analyze your own Dreams:\xa0 https://thisjungianlife.com/enroll/

REFERENCES:

Memories, Dreams, and Reflections by C.G. Jung.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0679723951/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_KJ9YSPFZZ5XZ6A7MND2R

Iron John: A Book about Men by Robert Bly.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0306824264/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_H4265W9BKGA44JC3WJMW

Under Saturn\u2019s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men by James Hollis.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00Y2U9ARS/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_MX6Z6GB2933NNM78FM47

Fear of the Feminine by Erich Neumann.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0691034737/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_F6B98SARV608ER64N5CE

Phallos by Eugene Monick.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0919123260/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_Z2J86A205EYN5EK4T7FR

Castration and Male Rage by Eugene Monick.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0919123511/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_PA070QF8AHM4DMM29TCQ