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If you\u2019ve been struggling to achieve a perfectly equitable marriage, you\u2019re not alone. Research shows that even couples who prioritize equality often find themselves fighting about fairness in their relationship.

That was the experience of today\u2019s guests, Nate and Kaley Klemp, two high-achieving individuals, who started their marriage believing in a model of fairness, only to discover that, in reality, that balance was virtually impossible to achieve. It was out of this frustration that they developed what they call The 80/80 Marriage, a model rooted in radical generosity and shared success, which led to them co-authoring the New York Times bestselling book\xa0The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship.

I talk with Nate and Kaley about the concept of the 80/80 marriage, why fixating on fairness doesn\u2019t work, and how adopting a mindset of radical generosity can transform your relationship. Our conversation also gets into key aspects of their book, like being intentional about each person\u2019s role, creating explicit values, and setting priorities and boundaries together. Join us for a fascinating conversation on equality, radical generosity, and how to strive for an 80/80 relationship!

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Key Points From This Episode:

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\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Introducing today\u2019s guests, Nate and Kaley Klemp.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 The story of how they met and got married.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Why the first two years of their marriage were so challenging.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 The many ways couples fight about fairness and why it causes resentment.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 How they wrote the 80/80 Marriage together.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 The concept of an 80/80 relationship, and how it differs from one that is 50/50.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Why it\u2019s about striving for balance and radical generosity.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Steps to creating the right mindset for an 80/80 marriage.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 How to create the structure for an 80/80 relationship.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Building a bridge between mindset and structure through values.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 How to take a more intentional approach to your roles as a couple.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Setting priorities and boundaries as a couple (and why it can be so liberating).

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Insights on what to do when you have an unwilling or reluctant partner.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 How to approach your partner about entering an 80/80 relationship.

\u2022\xa0\xa0\xa0 Nate\u2019s new book Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World.

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Quotes:

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\u201cWe're really the first generation in all of human history, striving toward equal marriage.\xa0[0:05:39]

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\u201cThere's no such thing as 160% of anything. The whole idea is [that] it doesn't make sense, [so] strive. And then, [with] both parties striving for 80%, you land somewhere in the space of balance.\u201d \xa0[0:11:18]

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\u201cThere are no good or bad, or right or wrong, values. There are known and implicit values. When you have known, or explicit, or agreed to, values, then you have a north star, where you can build the structure of your relationship. When you have implicit values, it's very challenging.\u201d \xa0[0:23:54]

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\u201cMost couples have never taken that step back and [have] never thought from an intentional place: \u2018How could we redesign our roles, such that [it] really works for both of us?\u2019\u201d\xa0\xa0[0:28:05]

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\u201cFor many couples, when even just one person shifts to 80/80, it opens up a new space for the other person, who might be the undercontributor, to contribute more and to be generous in turn.\u201d \xa0[0:37:11]

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Links Mentioned in Today\u2019s Episode:

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Nate Klemp

Nate Klemp on LinkedIn

Nate Klemp on X

Kaley Klemp

Kaley Klemp on LinkedIn

Kaley Klemp on X

The 80/80 Marriage

The 80/80 Marriage on Instagram

The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World

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