#42 Hysterical Bonding

Published: April 7, 2019, 10 p.m.

On today\u2019s show we welcome Lee, who is here to tell us her personal story and how her husband cheating on her boosted her libido due to a phenomenon called hysterical bonding.\xa0 Hysterical bonding is a term which hasn't been studied extensively yet. However, it's a phenomenon that many people can relate to.

It describes what happens when someone is cheated on by their partner, or is broken up with, and they want to do anything to win back their ex's affections. It sounds counter-intuitive and paradoxical, but that's because there are many different emotions at play. We\u2019re discussing her marriage of 24 years, how she found out that her husband had been cheating on her and what led her to sticking around and wanting to rebuild the relationship. To hear more about Lee\u2019s story, stay tuned!

Key Points From This Episode:

  • Hear more about Lee\u2019s background.
  • Growing up with an alcoholic, verbal abusive father.
  • How Lee met her husband and got married 11 months into the relationship.
  • The first signs that something wasn\u2019t right.
  • How Lee\u2019s car accident and neck injury led to her being dependent on pain medication.
  • The effect of the pain medication on Lee\u2019s libido.
  • Why guys who are getting fulfilled still go out looking for more.
  • Having found the love of your life but also wanting sex or a relationship outside of that.
  • Finding out about the other women.
  • When the hysterical bonding kicked in.
  • How Lee regained her libido and has been having sex 2/3 times a day since.
  • Trying to rebuild the relationship, starting in the bedroom.
  • Lee\u2019s advice to listeners going through a similar situation with their partner.
  • And so much more!

Tweetables:

\u201cOur first several years of marriage were, I mean, I wouldn\u2019t say perfect because I don\u2019t think there\u2019s a thing as perfect but I was very happy and I felt like he was too.\u201d \u2014 Lee [0:09:51]

\u201cI was keeping him satisfied, the problem was, you know, I think he was not happy with the fact that he wasn\u2019t able to satisfy me.\u201d \u2014 Lee [0:15:37]

\u201cHow can I be just totally heartbroken, devastated and at the same time want my husband?\u201d \u2014 Lee [0:29:55]