We like to think that our personal\xa0safety\xa0and the\xa0safety\xa0of our loved ones is something\xa0that other people \u2014 law enforcement, school administrators, social media moderators \u2014 will take care of for us. \n\nMy guest today, Spencer Coursen, would say that while this mindset\xa0may help us\xa0feelsafe, it's actually when we feel the most\xa0safe, that we're in the greatest danger. Spencer \u2014 who's a combat veteran and a threat management expert \u2014\xa0calls this paradox "the\xa0safety trap," and he's the author of a book of the same name.