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Kanika: I heard you mention in a recent interview that it wasn\u2019t your job to \u201cmake your kids happy\u201d and it stopped me in my tracks. I mean, making sure someone else is happy is a tall order (and might I mention impossible), but so many parents assume that role. I know I did. If happiness isn\u2019t the goal, what is?\nStephanie: Yes, I can totally relate. It\u2019s so natural to assume that responsibility. But once you acknowledge that it\u2019s an impossible task and start focusing on the things you do have control over, a huge weight lifts.\nStephanie\u2019s Tips:\n\nGive them power over their decisions, even the wrong ones.\n\nIf kids are fighting you to put on shoes or a raincoat, once I said, \u201cOkay, don\u2019t wear shoes\u201d or \u201cOkay, don\u2019t wear a raincoat\u201d and when they felt the direct consequences of their decision, they were able to make better decisions in the future\n\nGive them agency over their success and failures\n\n\nEx. not checking homework -- allowing the teacher to build a direct relationship with the student and hold them accountable\n\nSupport them as they experience a full range of emotions\n\nYou can\u2019t control their feelings -- sadness, elation and disappointment are all part of life, so instead help them develop tools to be able to cope with these emotions\n\nBuild resilience\n\nEpisode Links:\n\nWEBSITE: LearnWithHomer.com\n\n\nINSTAGRAM: @learnwithhomer\n\n\nFACEBOOK: /learnwithhomer\n\n\n\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices