Victoria Allen, is a marriage and family therapist, retreat leader, spiritual mentor and founder of Raise Your State. \nFor over 3 decades she has empowered women around the globe to extinguish menacing fears and shed limiting beliefs, so they are able to bring forth their deepest love into relationships. \nShe believes that women carry the transforming power to introduce fierce self-love into their lives, make loving choices, and courageously cultivate fulfilling and intimate relationships. \nWith decades of experience and study with some of the world\u2019s greatest spiritual masters and healers \u2013 including Don Miguel Ruiz (Best-selling author of The Four Agreements\xae) \u2013 she brings a wealth of expertise and experience to help women access the Courageous Love that is already inside of them.\nHow can women reconnect with their feminine side\nVictoria recommends getting in touch with what nurtures them and give them pleasure and take care of themselves body, mind, spirit.\nShe has found that men just want the women in their lives to be happy.\xa0 So recognize what supports their men in being successful with them and be their hero.\xa0 When you do this, men just really step up.\nGuiding Principle, Quote or Mantra\nHold radical respect in relationship. \nThis is a heart based respect.\xa0 Hold each others heart as you would your own heart. \nWhen You Tripped Up\nVictoria had become very good friends with a woman and they supported each other through very intense times and bonded through wounding.\nOver time, Victoria began to shift and did not want a friendship built on wounding.\xa0 And she began to move away and her friend could feel it.\nHow she tripped up was not being direct and clear with her friend.\xa0 She didn\u2019t want to have a confrontation or hurt her, but her pulling away created a lot of pain.\nEventually, her friend had the courage to talk to Victoria.\xa0\nProudest moment in partnership\nFor Victoria this is her commitment to her current husband of 15 years.\xa0\nThey had known each other for many years as friends.\xa0 Then things aligned and they both knew it was right for them.\nShe has a deep knowing about him and what he\u2019s here to do and she wants to support that.\xa0 And he came in with the intention to hold her heart and take care of her heart.\nEven after all these years they continue to grow and expand and deepen.\nHow do you keep a relationship growing and expanding?\nWe go through all seasons in a relationship and it is not always going to be Spring and growing.\xa0 Sometimes it will be Fall when we shed things and release them.\nWhen a relationship can hold a big enough container to hold the ebbs and flows that we both go through individually and together and include it all in the relationship then you can enjoy the fluidity of a relationship.\nWhat is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? \nWe are love.\xa0 We are here to remember we are love.\xa0 And we\u2019re here to live our happiness.\nBest Partnership Book\n\nThe Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book\nInterview Links \u2013\nVictoria\u2019s website\nEmail \u2013 victoria@raiseyourstate.com\n<a href="https://www.facebook.