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Psychologist Susan Campbell has worked as a relationship coach for 45 years. \nA former professor at the University of Massachusetts, she is author of 10 books on relationships and communication. \nHer work has been featured in many popular magazines including, New Woman, Cosmopolitan, Self, Men\u2019s Health, Brides, Seventeen, Yoga Journal and New Age.\nGuiding Principle, Quote or Mantra\nWe are here in this school of life to learn lessons and relationships are the advanced course.\nSusan teaches relationships as a practice like yoga or meditation.\xa0 And she helps people self observe there resistance to the present moment.\nTo her relationships are a spiritual practice to help us evolve beyond the egocentric view of what\u2019s going on.\nWhen You Tripped Up \nSusan and her partner had just returned from a fabulous romantic vacation and she was sleeping in.\nUnbeknownst to her, her partner was awake and wanting to make love but she is still sleeping.\nA couple of hours later he wakes her up and says he is going home and starts saying that he never gets what he wants in the relationship etc.\xa0 Clearly he is triggered.\nSusan, feeling blindsided by all of this is now triggered too.\xa0 Her ego and pride comes up and she says to herself \u201cIf he can\u2019t see what a great girlfriend she is, then she doesn\u2019t want him.\u201d\nUltimately they ended up breaking up over this fight.\nThe lesson from this trip up:\xa0 Don\u2019t ever break up with your partner when you are triggered because you are never in your right mind when that is going on.\nThe \u201cDUH\u201d moment that changed your partnerships forever\nWhen she was in her 20\u2019s Susan became an instant step mom to her husband\u2019s young brother and sister.\nShe took it on with enthusiasm but there was always something going on with her and the 9 year old boy.\xa0 And it became very tense between her and the boy.\nA few years later, her husband and her divorce.\xa0 And then the boy told her ex-husband that he had felt like he lost his big brother.\nSusan\u2019s DUH moment was that as a psychologist, she missed all of the ripples that her entering this family would create.\nThe lesson is to know what kind of a personality you have and apply what you know from other areas in your life to your relationships.\nProudest moment in partnership\xa0\nSusan was at an outdoor music festival with her boyfriend and they got into a disagreement.\nHer boyfriend says \u201cThis is not going to work,\u201d and Susan took this to mean he was going to break up with her.\xa0\nAnd what she is proud of is that instead of letting this trigger her she asked \u201cwhat just happened there?\xa0 Can you tell me more about why you\u2019re saying that?\u201d\nShe was not pleased, but she held space for him and let him talk it out.\xa0 By the time they had finished talking they were close again.\nWhat is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?\nKnow that you have triggers.\xa0 Emotional hot buttons that are based on fears like fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear that you\u2019re not important or accepted.\nAnd learn the early warning signs of the triggers so you have more power over the whole triggering process.\nBest Partnership Book\n\nFive-Minute Relationship Repair: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love\n<a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1577314808/ref=as_li_tl?