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Jessica Winterstern got her bachelors in applied psychology from NYU, her masters in Human development and psychology from Harvard and is about to graduate with a second masters in Spiritual psychology from university of Santa Monica. \nShe is an author who writes for Huffington post, House of Citrine The Good Men Project and several other publications and is currently writing two books.\nJessica is a transformational coach and a motivational speaker. Vulnerability is her greatest strength and she recognizes her heart as her ultimate superpower.\nWhat inspired you to write your article \u2013 \u201cTo all the men out there\u201d?\nJessica recognized that all her life she had been projecting her pain and insecurities and discomfort on others and especially men.\nShe realized it often feels easier to point blame rather than take responsibility.\xa0 And she was ready to clear herself of this and started writing and this article came out.\nGuiding Principle, Quote or Mantra\nAll love comes from self love.\nWhen it comes to loving and going into partnership, it is so important to be connected to one\u2019s value and worth. \xa0 Otherwise we are setting ourselves up for failure when we are disconnected from ourselves.\nWhen You Tripped Up \nAt the time of Jessica\u2019s first serious relationship she had a great deal of self hatred and lack of self worth coursing through her body.\xa0 And she created a partnership with a man who mirrored back to her all of these things.\nShe stayed in this relationship for 4 years, which was probably 4 years too long, even though everyone in her life was advocating for her to get out of it.\nJessica continually turned a blind eye to things that she wouldn\u2019t stand for today.\xa0\nLooking back she knows that this man was being her mirror and treating her exactly as she felt that she deserved to be treated.\nShe was tripping up over and over again because she was so dependent on the idea of the partnership and so terrified of being alone that she ended up sacrificing herself to maintain something that wasn\u2019t real.\nThe \u201cDUH\u201d moment that changed your partnerships forever\nJessica\u2019s \u201cDuh\u201d moment was when she realized that even the man who was the love of her life so far, could not fix the emptiness she felt inside no matter how much he tried to make her happy.\nWaking up to the fact that she needed to do the work it was going to take to become whole so she could come into a relationship as someone who is complete.\nOn the outside everything looked perfect.\xa0 But inside she was completely disconnected from herself and she was looking for her value from external variables.\nShe needed to do the work within so she could be fueled by her own self love in a relationship versus her own self loathing.\nProudest moment in partnership\xa0\nThe relationships Jessica has built with the women in her life right now are some of her proudest.\xa0\nThey are a mirror and reflection of what powerful self-love is able to do.\xa0\nThese partnerships light each other up and don\u2019t feel the need to dim themselves down.\nWhat is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?\nEvery moment is a choice.\xa0 You can only choose your partner when you choose yourself first.\nBest Partnership Book\n\nConscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment\nPayoff of Partnership\nJessica values the experiences of heartbreak and grief that come ...