Connor Beaton Get out of your own way

Published: June 15, 2016, noon

Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks.\nHe is also a Speaker, a Business Coach and a lifestyle entrepreneur. \nBefore founding ManTalks, Connor pursued his passion as an Opera singer which allowed him to sing in Europe, China and North America. \nHe then went on to work with the largest company in the world, Apple Computers, leading high performance sales and operations teams. From Music to Business, Connor has had a unique opportunity to work closely with some of the best, brightest and most talented in multiple industries.\nConnor currently runs ManTalks which supports men who are looking to achieve greatness in their life by connecting them with like minded individuals and giving them the tools to grow in their desired area of life. \nManTalks offers monthly events, mastermind groups. \xa0 They also have a fast growing online presence with their podcast and blog where you will find world class men from ex Navy Seal\u2019s to spiritual teachers like Dan Millman.\nManTalks is expanding to Toronto and Los Angeles.\nGuiding Principle, Quote or Mantra\nYou can either be right or you can be happy.\xa0 This applies to all personal and professional partnerships.\nConnor has been a very stubborn and accomplishment driven person in much of his life. \nHe used to come into relationships from a space of, if he was going to be a successful partner he needed to be right.\xa0 And this often times led to arguments.\nThis desire to be right implied that the other person was wrong.\nWhen You Tripped Up \nConnor had a 2+ year long relationship with his high school sweetheart and then he caught her cheating on him.\xa0 And at the age of 17 that was heartbreaking.\nSo he put on the armor to protect himself from getting hurt again and went out into the world trying to have successful relationships.\nAs soon as a relationship would start to get serious he would sabotage it by cheating in an effort to not get hurt again.\xa0\nIn his current relationship he found himself wanting to run away from the relationship and actually did break it off to pursue someone else.\xa0 And she was devastated.\nUltimately they decided to try and get back together and his partner, Kelsey, said something that changed him.\xa0 She said, \u201cOnly hurt people, hurt people.\u201d\nThis reality check helped him get free of the guilt and shame and forgive himself.\nProudest moment in partnership \nFor Connor being able to use his innate gifts and the things that really fulfill him to help his partner.\nHis partner, Kelsey\u2019s, business had plateaued and she wanted to take it to the next level, but wasn\u2019t sure how to do it.\nInstead of taking his standard approach of coming in like a wrecking ball and saying \u201cyou should do this and you should do that\u201d he simply asked if she would mind if he offered some suggestions.\nShe was very receptive and Connor realized this happened because he asked permission.\nAnd being unattached to her response allowed him to ask from a neutral space.\nWhat is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?\nLearn how to hold the bucket for the female partners in your life.\nWhen a man can just be present and hold the space for her to get out whatever she needs to get out it is a huge gift.\xa0 It lets them know they are being heard.\nBest Partnership Book or Resource\n\nAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind \u2013 and Keep \u2013 Love\n<a href="http://www.