Episode 378: Too much leadership and awkward zoom silence

Published: Oct. 16, 2023, noon

In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:

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    I\u2019ve managed an ML team in a small company for ~2 years now. I created an 8 person team from scratch and I\u2019m super proud of the team I\u2019ve built. However, I miss being an engineer and wish I could spend more time coding. I was considering asking for a role change to IC, but out of nowhere my manager offered to me a promotion to head of platform engineering. I would have 3 engineering teams reporting to me - about 30 people altogether.

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    I have trouble saying no to new opportunities but can I put the genie back in the bottle? If I get \u201cPeter principled\u201d, I feel like it would be challenging or embarrassing to return to IC work.\u2028\u2028How can I stay close to the ML side while managing other teams? Would other teams feel dejected if they know I had a \u201cfavorite\u201d team?

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    Is it just me or do people also find silences over Zoom unbearable? I work in a team that is mostly remote, and I find myself deliberately logging into meetings late to avoid the silence or the stilted, awkward smalltalk. If i\u2019m running the meeting, I kickoff at 1 minute past to avoid having to deal with that dead air. I also find myself too quick to fill pauses during meetings. I never have this problem in person meetings. I\u2019ve been in the same team now for nearly a year and I still dread uncomfortable silences over Zoom. How do I get over this?

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