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643: Recognizing the Cycle of Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships

Published: April 17, 2024, 4 a.m.

Do you struggle with your relationship with your mother? Today, I\u2019m talking to Khara Crosswaite Brindle. We explored mother-daughter estrangement and the process of healing from toxic relationships. We discussed her book on ruptured mother-daughter bonds and the common cycle of estrangement that includes questioning the relationship, potential relationship ruptures, and stages of grief, self-discovery, and redefining self-worth. We both shared personal experiences of emotionally unavailable mothers and the impact this had on their sense of self. They described struggles with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and boundary-setting due to a lack of modeling in childhood.

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Questions I asked:

o\xa0\xa0 Where about do you live on the planet?

o\xa0\xa0 Do you go to the gym now?

o\xa0\xa0 What brought you into talking about Mother Daughter estrangement?

o\xa0\xa0 What assumptions about estrangement need to be dispelled?

o\xa0\xa0 What social stigmas are attached to this mother daughter estrangement?

o\xa0\xa0 What would you speak to women today that have gone through something like that? So they can understand their value?

o\xa0\xa0 How does one put boundaries in place when I may not even know what they should be?

o\xa0\xa0 How do you realize you\u2019re worthy of these boundaries?

o\xa0\xa0 What's what would you say, separates these stages in the parental estrangement experience?

o\xa0\xa0 What separates the stages in the parental estrangement experience according to Kara's model?

o\xa0\xa0 What social stigmas are attached to mother-daughter estrangement?

o\xa0\xa0 What would you tell women today who have gone through abandonment by their mothers to help them understand their value?

o\xa0\xa0 How do people stop people-pleasing to your own detriment?

o\xa0\xa0 What is the name of Kara's book and where can people find it?

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Topics Discussed:

- Mother-daughter estrangement and the estrangement cycle

- Impacts of emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, and abusive mothers

- Intergenerational patterns of trauma and their effects

- Struggles with self-worth, perfectionism, people-pleasing due to childhood experiences

- Grieving the loss of an idealized mother-daughter relationship

- Stages of healing from estrangement, including grief, self-discovery, and redefining self-worth

- Importance of setting boundaries and distinguishing emotional vs. physical estrangement\xa0

- Societal pressures and stigma surrounding estrangement decisions

- Role of community and therapy in healing from childhood trauma

- Insights and strategies shared from Kara Cross's book on ruptured mother-daughter relationships

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Quotes from the show:

\xb7\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 \u201cNo daughter that I've worked with was like, this is fun for me. In fact, they're usually in grief and loss, they're usually in pain.\u201d @optivida @SisterhoodSweat

\xb7\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 \u201cThis book felt like a love letter to adult daughters who didn't feel the same. @optivida @SisterhoodSweat

\xb7\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 \u201cMost of the people I work with are women of all different backgrounds, all the way from like 19 years old to like 65.\u201d @optivida\xa0 @SisterhoodSweat

\xb7\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 \u201cI was noticing a pattern where these women would come in with trauma, but they'd also have other relationship stressors, and life stuff.\u201d @optivida @SisterhoodSweat

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\xb7\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 Khara\xa0is author of Amazon #1 Best Seller\xa0Perfectioneur: From Workaholic to Well-Balanced\xa0and co-author of\xa0The Empowerment Model of Clinical Supervision\xa0available at Amazon.com

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