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Standout Quotes from this Episode:\nIn order to grow more resilient, we need to take useful experiences fully in, so they move from a shift in a state to a shift in a trait.\xa0\nTo enter into the depths of we, we have to have a healthy sense of me, of my own rights, autonomy, rights to disengage if I need to.\xa0 Intimacy is not at odds with autonomy.\nThere is a real distinction between solitude and loneliness.\xa0 Loneliness carries as many risks for health...\nRick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 26 languages and include Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha's Brain, Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture.\nToday Traci and Rick have such a sweet connection and exploration together as they discuss how to be a resilient connector even if you are an introvert.\xa0 If you want to find out more about Rick please visit his website to find his podcast and online courses here which we highly get behind.\nWhat Dr. Hanson wants us all to be able to do in this life is to show up and face challenges, experience our vulnerabilities, and use our resources more fully.\xa0 One of the ways that happen is to learn how to work with ourselves to amplify useful experiences so they help us develop an unshakeable core, no matter what is happening inside or around us.\nRick talked with Traci about how to be resilient while listening on the sidewalk.\xa0 And Traci got to explore with Rick where she has more work to do.\nI am an introvert.\xa0 I don\u2019t need a connection.\nTraci engaged Rick about the idea of introversion.\xa0 She has heard from many followers of Sidewalk Talk that because they are an introvert, they do not need the kind of connection that Sidewalk Talk offers.\xa0\xa0\nRick weighs in by offering that \u201c I am a friendly introvert.\xa0 There is a real distinction between solitude and loneliness.\xa0 Loneliness carries as many risks for health as cigarette smoking. People are social animals.\xa0 Certainly, in childhood, it is necessary and important for everyone to feel received in some fundamental way.\xa0 John Wellwood, in his work, shared the ideology of self-reliance or spiritual bypass where we withdraw from contact bc it is stirring and we would rather preserve distance.\xa0 We would prefer no demand, no obligation.\u201d\nIn our modern times, we must reclaim our nature and engage people eye to eye.\xa0 We are called to be strong and engage in practices that expand our ability to be free and widen our ability to experience.\nWhen Rick asked Joseph Goldstein from the Insight Meditation Society \u201cIf you could nominate a practice for a critical mass of people to do on the planet every day what would it be?\u201d\nJoseph Goldstein said, \u201cI would have them spend 5 minutes a day listening to another person without any judgments.\u201d\xa0\nTo give others the gift and profound blessing for feeling felt.