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When you accept all the parts of you, you activate eight C\u2019s in your life, namely; curiosity, calm, clarity, compassion, confidence, creativity, connectedness, and courage.\xa0 When we are filled up with these qualities, we can feel for someone, without being overwhelmed by them.\nIn this episode, Dr. Richard C. Schwartz joins Traci to talk about self-leadership and the links between some of the current events of our time: injustice of all kinds, politics, and empathy across divides.\xa0\nDr. Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS). He came up with a theory that we are all made up of parts, and different parts of us could be burdened, causing us not to be okay. He also found that when the parts felt safe and were allowed to relax, we spontaneously experienced the qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion that Dr. Schwartz came to call the Self with a capital \u2018S\u2019.\xa0 He found that when in that state of self, we know how to heal.\nNear the end he shares how shame and legacy burdens are parts that play into our activism and justice work.\xa0\xa0\nListen in as Traci and Dr. Schwartz help us understand the multiple parts theory of IFS and how it works.\nEpisode Timelines:\n[ 06:26] What would Dick want to be changed in therapists\u2019 training?\n[10:39] Richard\u2019s multiple parts theory\n[16:50] Do we all have multiple parts despite having a smooth childhood?\n[17:52] Self Leadership Is...\n[19:23] The eight C\u2019s: Qualities that come out when you accept yourself\n[20:20] What should listeners be mindful of when listening to someone whose parts might come up and maybe not emphasized?\n[24:30] How culture influences some of our parts\n[28:11] How Internal Family Systems is stretching beyond the therapist office\n[34:19] Richard\u2019s words of wisdom\nResources Mentioned:\nRichard\u2019s books\nStand Out Quotes:\n\u201cA burden is an extreme belief, emotion or energy that comesfrom some trauma or, bad event in our lives and attaches almost like a virus.\u201d [13:00]\n\u201cThe ego is just a collection of these little manager parts trying their best to keep you safe. \xa0 They need love, too. They don\u2019t need to be disparaged.\u201d [30:16]\n\u201cIt is possible to burnout and people who burn out typically are those who, in trying to help somebody, feel like they have to take in their emotions.\u201d [34:31]\n\u201cIf you\u2019re full in compassion, you don\u2019t necessarily feel what the client is feeling. But you feel a lot for them, you have a strong desire to help them. You don\u2019t necessarily have to feel their feelings [to feel for them].\u201d [35:49]\nConnect:\nFind\xa0|\xa0Sidewalk Talk PodcastAt\xa0sidewalk-talk.orgOn Instagram:\xa0@sidewalktalkorgOn Twitter:\xa0@sidewalktalkorg\nFind\xa0|\xa0Traci RubleAt\xa0Traciruble.comOn Instagram:\xa0@TraciRubleMFTOn Twitter:\xa0@TraciRubleMFTOn Facebook:\xa0@TraciRubleMFT\nFind | Dr. Richard C. Schwartz\nAt\nFind | Dr. Richard Schwartz\nAt:\xa0 ifs-institute.comOn LinkedIn: @internalfamilysystemsOn Twitter: @IFS_ModelOn Instagram: @internalfamilysystemsOn Facebook: @InternalFamilySystems