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Carol the Coach will be interviewing Michele Saffier who will be speaking about her work with partners struggling with betrayal trauma.\xa0 Discovery forces partners into an existential crisis of self. The choice they are faced with has very little to do with external decisions about their life\u2013 divorce, reconciliation, therapy, polygraphs and disclosure, why the betrayer did what they did, etc. There are two paths ahead. The must choose one.\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0 The path on the left is the relationship healing journey \u2013 individual therapy, partners group, S-Anon, marital therapy, accountability, etc. This path manages the acute crisis yet wellness still depends largley on the \u201cwe\u201d and not the \u201cI\u201d.\xa0 The path on the right far more difficult; it is a Heroes\u2019 Journey.\xa0 They will battle two-headed dragons, angry monsters and, the scariest monster of all, their own dark side (shadow self).\xa0 If they hang on for dear life and stay on their journey, they will emerge, like the Phoenix rises from the ashes, transformed. \xa0Death and then rebirth.\xa0 Partners must slay their own dragons to transform themselves.\xa0 In the spirit of Kintsugi, brokenness is not to be hidden with gorilla glue but rather it is to be celebrated and mended with gold.\xa0 She believes that partner should be celebrating the wisdom, beauty and strength in their brokenness.