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How to survive retirement as a couple? Let's find out in today's episode. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/retirement-as-a-couple-episode-30\nMiriam Goodman is the author of \u201cToo much Togetherness: Surviving Retirement as a couple\u201d.\nThis book teaches us how to survive retirement as a couple.\xa0 I asked her to come on the show because I\u2019ve seen marriages break up after retirement she shared her insights on how to prevent that.\xa0 As you know, retirement is not just about money.\xa0 Retirement includes all the other things that your financial advisor never told you about.\xa0 Miriam can help us stay together after we retire.\nTo prepare for the book, Miriam interviewed couples with different situations, but many situations included the husband being retired, but the women weren\u2019t ready to retire.\nOne thing to watch for when one member of a couple retires is that a job gives you structure, community, and purpose.\nIn order to survive retirement as a couple, you need to replace that structure, community, and purpose, or your relationship may take a hit.\nNeither the wife nor the husband is apt to say, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be with you for 24 hours a day,\u201d so have a plan.\nMiriam suggests that to survive retirement as a couple, you need to schedule time to be together.\xa0 You also need to schedule time to be apart and to do your own thing.\xa0 It is usually the role of the women to schedule these activities.\xa0 It's also usually the role of women to make sure that the husband is still feeling vibrant after retirement.\xa0 Baby Boomer men still have their identity wrapped around what they do for a living.\xa0 Retirement can cause men of this age to have a self-image problem.\xa0 Once he is no longer the \u201cbig cheese\u201d it can also be reflected in the sexual relationship.\nAlso remember that if something new doesn\u2019t work out, you can always try something else.\nBefore you Retire: Make sure you have a plan.\xa0 Taking long walks is not a plan!\xa0 Cleaning out the garage is not a plan!\nIf you are stuck:\xa0For some it might mean therapy. She told a story of how one wife went to the first session with her husband because she wanted to make sure that the therapist knew of his behaviors.\nFor others it can simply\xa0mean a new activity such as dance, tennis or golf.\xa0 You can also join a book club, read a book together, or simply\xa0get out of the house.\xa0\xa0 Additionally, it\u2019s important to keep your appearances up and not just let yourself go.\nMiriam\u2019s Books:\n\n* Too Much Togetherness: Surviving Retirement as a Couple\n* Reinventing Retirement: 389 Bright Ideas about Family, Friends, Health, What to Do, and Where to Live\n\nMiriam\u2019s contact information: email: yourprexpert@aol.com\xa0 website: www.toomuchtogetherness.com\nhttp://traffic.libsyn.com/rockyourretirement/030_Miriam_Goodman_060415_IFinal.mp3\n\nMiriam Goodman, surviving retirement as a couple