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Let's talk about death.\nJonathan Braddock is our guest for today and he is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, and the founder and CEO of My Life and Wishes,\xa0an education and digital planning platform with a mission to help at least one million families become\xa0“thoughtfully prepared”\xa0for the inevitable, their own death. Jon is the author of “Advisor or Vendor”, “Retire Erase”, the “My Life and Wishes Organization”, and, his most recent release, “Click Here When I Die”, is an Amazon Best Seller.\nWhy is planning for our death important?\nLeaving your family via your death is already hard for them, planning your wake and burial will be much harder for them. Leaving them via your death with a Will help them know what you want. They will know if you want to be cremated, in-ground burial, etc. Helping them know what you want or have planned for them is a really big thing because it lessens the hardship that they will face after your death.\nFor Jon's family, it took them 10 months to finally finish all the paperwork left for his father-in-law. They found a bank account where the bank's name is not familiar to them. Imagine the stressful phone calls they had to make to locate the bank. It will be much easier if you prepare everything like your bank accounts, social media passwords, ATM passwords, your will, insurance policies, and many more. Jon shares a story about someone he knows where he's really guilty that he didn't have her mother cremated when that's what she really wants but he didn't know that because she didn't tell him.\nWhat are the 5 stages of grief when there's a death?\n\n* Denial – this is\xa0the first of the five stages of grief. It helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial.\xa0Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible.\xa0As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process. You are becoming stronger, and the denial is beginning to fade.\n* Anger –\xa0a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless. The more you truly feel it, the more it will begin to dissipate and the more you will heal. There are many other emotions under the anger and you will get to them in time, but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing.\xa0The anger is just another indication of the intensity of your love.\n* Bargaining –\xa0Before a loss, it seems like you will do anything if only your loved one would be spared. \u201cPlease God, \u201d you bargain, \u201cI will never be angry at my wife again if you\u2019ll just let her live.\u201d After a loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. \u201cWhat if I devote the rest of my life to helping others. Then can I wake up and realize this has all been a bad dream?\u201d We become lost in a maze of \u201cIf only\u2026\u201d or \u201cWhat if\u2026\u201d statements.\n* Depression –\xa0After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It\u2019s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness. It is the appropriate response to a great loss. If grief is a process of healing, then depression is one of the many necessary steps along the way.\n* Acceptance – this\xa0is often confused with the notion of being \u201call right\u201d or \u201cOK\u201d with what has happened.