362: Behind the Sessions: The Guilt of Wanting Alone Time as a Mom

Published: Sept. 5, 2024, 7 a.m.

There are many different reasons that bring people into therapy. I often find myself angered by how societal impacts and pressures continue to haunt new moms to the point of making them feel bad about themselves. They can feel stuck and wonder if their feelings are normal or okay. One of the top things that bothers me is when moms feel guilty for wanting time alone. Doesn\u2019t everyone deserve time for themselves? Moms get pressured like no other parent/guardian about wanting to take time for themselves in a guilt-free way. Moms should be supported in getting a break when they need it! Join me for a closer look at this topic.\n\nShow Highlights:\n\nSources of this specific kind of mom-guilt\n\nMyths around attachment parenting and other parenting styles\n\nIs complete selflessness always the best thing?\n\nThe disservice we do to moms, kids, and partners when we expect a mom\u2019s needs to be nonexistent\n\nThe effects of this pressure and guilt on a mom\u2019s mental health\n\nWanting alone time does NOT mean you are selfish or that you don\u2019t love your child.\n\nThe kind of support and normalization moms need to be more present with their kids and have mental stability in a guilt-free life\n\nWays moms judge themselves with internalized pressure, family pressure, and societal pressure\n\nThe truth: Every mom should be supported in shame-free and guilt-free ways to confidently take the breaks they need.\xa0\n\n\nResources:\nPlease find resources in English and Spanish at Postpartum Support International, or by phone/text at 1-800-944-4773. There are many free resources, like online support groups, peer mentors, a specialist provider directory, and perinatal mental health training for therapists, physicians, nurses, doulas, and anyone who wants to be a better support in offering services.\xa0\nYou can also follow PSI on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and most other platforms\nVisit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.\xa0\xa0\nVisit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!