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During pregnancy and parenthood, we listen to SO many voices telling us what we should look like, feel like, and do. The stereotypes can be frustrating and demeaning to the point that we feel very unheard and unseen. Today\u2019s conversation brings to the forefront the importance of finding self-worth and fulfillment in yourself and who you are, instead of what other people say. Join us to learn more!\nJocelyn Lam is the mother of an energetic, kind, and silly toddler. Jocelyn is a second-generation immigrant who grew up in Calgary, Canada, and currently resides in the Bay Area of CA. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps folks with intersecting identities break intergenerational trauma cycles, particularly in the areas of parenting, re-parenting, and body image. Jocelyn has training through Postpartum Support International and is working toward her certified eating disorder specialization. In today\u2019s conversation, she shares her personal experience in parenting as a second-generation Chinese and Canadian immigrant, along with a diagnosis of hyperemesis gravidarum, which forced her to quit work during her pregnancy to focus on her health. Because of that diagnosis, she became extremely depressed during her pregnancy, which did not set her up for a good postpartum experience. Shortly after her daughter\u2019s birth, her daughter was diagnosed with feeding aversion, which made breastfeeding very difficult and affected Jocelyn\u2019s attachment to her baby. Even with all the resources and the best clinicians, she struggled and experienced intense postpartum depression and anxiety. Jocelyn shares a lot of insight into her story and why things were so difficult for her.\xa0\nShow Highlights:\n\nHighlights of Jocelyn\u2019s background and story\n\nHow her work has been informed by her family background and personal experiences\n\nHow Jocelyn dealt with Asian stereotypes, racism, and microaggressions as she grew up in white, conservative Calgary\n\nHow immigrant-related trauma impacted her value and self-worth as she was compared to others in every aspect of life\n\nHow Jocelyn had to work to undo the mindset that a child\u2019s worth is tied to what they produce and achieve\n\nHow her daughter\u2019s feeding problems as an infant seemed much like a trauma response\n\nHow Jocelyn\u2019s diagnosis of hyperemesis gravidarum during pregnancy had her questioning her worth as a mother and left her feeling invalidated\n\nHow she had to learn that she deserves self-care\n\nHow fries from In-N-Out Burger became part of her re-learning process\n\nHow her hyperemesis gravidarum carried through her baby\u2019s birth and postpartum period with constant comments from others about her baby\u2019s size\n\nHow Jocelyn\u2019s entire world became about baby weight, calories, and comparing her baby to others\n\nWhat it meant to Jocelyn to learn to trust her own body and why she is teaching her daughter to trust her own body and empower herself\n\nWhy we really need to unpack what society and our family have taught us about food\n\nHow Jocelyn\u2019s survival instincts came from her parents\u2019 survival instincts until she learned to find space for herself\n\nWhy Jocelyn had to overcome the hyper-independence in her background and find community and support\n\nWhy Asian people typically reach out for mental health MUCH less often than the general population because they are taught to \u201cBe strong and self-sufficient\u201d\n\nJocelyn\u2019s key takeaways about our focus on body image, generational trauma, pregnancy, and postpartum, along with the importance of finding community\n\nResources:\nPostpartum Support International