If I was ever going to accept my change in life circumstances, I needed to start with changing my self talk chat lines.\nNo longer could I talk to myself as if I could conquer all. I could and can conquer a lot, but definitely not everything. No mind over matter, no cheerleading squads, no pushing through despite pain, is going to be suffice to achieve goals, like basic daily housework.\nShould I just give up? No, it\u2019s not in my DNA to give up but it is in my DNA to find solutions. I might have to give up my perfectionism but I can still hang on to my \u201cproblem solving\u201d passion.\nIt all starts with self talk. Not the kind I used in the past but a new kind. I\u2019ve created, new and appropriate, self talk chronic illness chat lines.