The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment

Published: Feb. 14, 2022, 9 a.m.

In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and \u201cpositive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one\u2019s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships.\xa0Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship.\xa0\nFor the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.\nThank you to our sponsors\nAG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman\nLMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman\nSupplements from Momentous\nhttps://www.livemomentous.com/huberman\nTimestamps\n(00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment\xa0\n(00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control\n(00:08:21)\xa0Sponsors: AG1, LMNT\n(00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire\n(00:19:00)\xa0Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy\xa0\n(00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles\n(00:32:52)\xa0Adult Attachment Styles\n(00:38:50) Secure Attachment\xa0\n(00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The \u201cSee-Saw\u201d\n(00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence\n(00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment\xa0\xa0\n(00:58:02)\xa0Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System\n(01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch\n(01:15:20) Relationship Stability\xa0\n(01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone\n(01:38:28)\xa0Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment\xa0\n(01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships\xa0\n(01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating\n(02:08:56)\xa0\u201cChemistry\u201d, Subconscious Processes\n(02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive\xa0\n(02:20:20) Maca (Maca root)\xa0\xa0\n(02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack)\xa0\n(02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris\xa0\n(02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements\nTitle Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac\nDisclaimer