How To Show Up For Others

Published: Sept. 7, 2023, 7:12 p.m.

"How do I help someone who is grieving?" This is the perennial question when it comes to showing up for people we care about after someone dies. Zack Wheat, a Board Certified Chaplain, knows more than most about what people who are grieving need - and don't need. Professionally, Zack knows about this from his work as a hospital chaplain for an inpatient palliative care team. He also knows about it from his time volunteering as a facilitator in peer grief support groups at Dougy Center. But, long before he was a hospital chaplain or a grief group facilitator, Zack learned about how to be there for others when he was 21 and his friend Leanna died in a car accident.\xa0

In this episode we talk about:

  • What it was like for Zack to speak at his friend\u2019s funeral\xa0

  • His draw to working as a chaplain\xa0

  • The difference between hospital and hospice chaplaincy\xa0

  • How the pandemic impacted Zack and his hospital colleagues\xa0

  • What people who are grieving need \u2013 and don\u2019t need\xa0

  • How to be human with other humans who are grieving\xa0

  • What keeps people from showing up for others\xa0

  • The value of acknowledgment, empathy, and presence\xa0

  • What Zack\u2019s learned as a facilitator in a peer grief support group\xa0