General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues\n\nAdditional content note: sexism, misogyny, questionable behavior, power dynamics and age gaps within romantic and sexual situations.\n\nWhen I made a show about my relationship with masculinity, I talked a lot about my mum and my stepdad, but my dad hardly featured at all. When he did, he was a positive presence and represented an alternative version of masculinity. When you\u2019re trying to condense your history into an hour-long show, you have to leave some bits out. But there\u2019s also something inside me that doesn\u2019t want to deconstruct my dad. I don\u2019t want to mess too much with the positive parts of my childhood.\n\nThis episode is about masculinity, privilege and performance.\n\n\nArtwork by my brother Tony Pickering:\xa0http://www.pick-art.co.uk/\n\nThe BPA Fund has a survey that I\u2019d really appreciate you filling in if you have a few moments. You can find it here: http://podcastviews.com\n\nFor some extra incentive if you fill it in you can be entered into a draw for a \xa350 Amazon voucher. For the purposes of this survey \u201cGetting Better Acquainted\u201d counts as "Down to a sunless sea" whether you are listening to it via the GBA feed or not.