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How These Lessons Can Help You When You Are TTC

Published: Feb. 15, 2021, 8 a.m.

Jennifer Robertson joins us today as we're digging into lessons learned from the fertility journey.

If someone told me there were valuable life lessons I would learn from the fertility journey \u2013 when I was right in the middle of the struggle \u2013 I probably would have told them where to go.

And it may be easy to share these lessons when we\u2019re on the other side of the journey but we share them because maybe you can see some of yourself in our story.

What I know for sure is this journey will force us to look at the hard stuff like impatience, our controlling nature, our need to plan it all out, the frustration when it doesn't go the way we imagined, and heartbreak month after month. Most women tell me one of the most painful parts of the TTC journey is the overwhelming feeling that we\u2019re behind as everyone else moves forward with their lives.

We can let this journey consume us or we can begin to reframe it so we can visualize a positive outcome.

If you can see your patterns that are the first step towards changing the story (after all you are not the voice in your head).

So how do we move forward on our own terms so that we can feel empowered and hopeful as we prepare for pregnancy success?

Jennifer Robertson joins us today! Jennifer is a fertility coach and has helped women all over the world transform their mindset and take back control of their life in the midst of infertility.

She is the author of The Injustice of Infertility, a true account of her own seven-year fertility journey.

In this episode you'll learn:

1) The biggest lessons learned from the journey so that you don\u2019t waste time doing the wrong things that don\u2019t get you closer to pregnancy success.

2) Why this journey is so hard and all-consuming and how to realize you are NOT your fertility journey.

3) What do if you have a picture in your head of how you would conceive your baby and now it is completely different?

4) What happens when we don\u2019t grieve and why confronting our fears and hard emotions allow us to take back control.

5) Steps to move forward so that we can approach this journey on our own terms.

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TIMESTAMPS:

05:01- INTRO TO TODAY'S EPISODE AND JENNIFER ROBERTSON\u2019S BIO

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05:55- JENNIFER\u2019S FERTILITY STORY

  • Miscarriages, IVF\u2019s, journey in surrogacy\xa0

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09:44- INTRO TO LESSONS LEARNED IN THE FERTILITY JOURNEY

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10:45- THE GRIEF AND TRAUMA OF INFERTILITY

  • Feeling like you need to \u201csuck it up\u201d and are a failure
  • The reality and weight of the fertility journey
  • \u201cIf you view it as trauma, it is.\u201d

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14:28- THE ROLE OF PERSONALITY AND BEING \u201cTYPE-A\u201d

  • The belief that \u201cworking harder\u201d only is what gives you results
  • \u201cYou are not producing a baby, you are creating a baby.\u201d
  • \u201cThere is so much extra power in slowing down.\u201d
  • Letting go of control in uncertain circumstances.
  • The temptation to \u201crank\u201d pain and not feeling like you have the right to feel
  • Being grateful but still wanting more

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21:48- LEARNING TO ASK FOR HELP

  • Taking a big picture perspective and understanding you are in a season
  • Not being CONSUMED with infertility and finding balance
  • Different ways that built up emotions can manifest (anger, overworking, etc)
  • The fear of dealing with your emotions

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29:46- STRESS MANIFESTING AS OVERPLANNING/CONTROL

  • Dealing with the feeling of no control over surrogacy
  • \u201cThere is so much extra power in slowing down.\u201d

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33:44- STRUGGLING WITH COMPARISON

  • Why searching for \u201cthe reason\u201d can lead \u201cus down a slippery slope\u201d
  • \u201cYou don\u2019t have anything to prove. You don\u2019t have to be the hero.\u201d
  • Developing healthy boundaries and saying \u2018no\u2019

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37:17- WHAT HAPPENS IF WE ARE NOT DEALING WITH OUR GRIEF

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  • \u201cGrief is the heaviest thing we will ever have to carry\u201d
  • Why grief is not linear and more like a \u201cping-pong ball\u201d
  • The importance of identifying what we are feeling
  • \u201cEmotions were created for us to feel them.\u201d
  • \u201cGrief is about giving yourself permission to feel.\u201d
  • Unhealthy ways we try to cope with our grief
  • Acknowledging how amazing your body is even in the midst of infertility
  • Getting to a place where you can enjoy your life right now, not just when you have your baby

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48:10- FAVORITE RESOURCES

51:04- SUCCESS STORY

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