HOW TO RAISE AN ADULT: A PROVOCATIVE MANIFESTO THAT EXPOSES THE DANGERS OF HELICOPTER PARENTING & SETS FORTH A NEW ALTERNATIVE PHILOSOPHY. Julie Lythcott-Haims, a self-proclaimed \u201canti-Tiger mom\u201d and former Stanford University Dean, offers her concerns about overprotective parenting, and explains why giving your kid more independence may be a better long term alternative.