Shabbat Sermon: What Went Wrong with the Chili? with Rav Hazzan Aliza Berger

Published: Dec. 31, 2022, 6:51 p.m.

In November, a woman posted the following thread to Twitter:

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\u201cSeveral guys moved in next door, students I guess. And I\u2019ve gotten two confused DoorDash drivers for them in the last week, and their trash can was completely overflowing with pizza boxes. I don\u2019t think they cook. I am feeling such a strange motherly urge to feed these boys.\u201d

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A minute later, she posted that she had decided to bring over a pot of chili when the weather cooled down over the weekend as a kind, neighborly gesture.

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When I first saw the post, I was touched. In my mind, we all live in these disconnected universes, especially after COVID, and the idea that someone would notice what others were throwing away and would care enough to cook for strangers\u2014I found that to be sweet.

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But that\u2019s not how others interpreted the post. This kind woman was trolled. Her initial post was retweeted 556 times with acerbic and vitriolic commentary. People accused her of \u201cimposing\u201d her life preferences on others, of being condescending, of being \u201cpresumptuous.\u201d One wrote, \u201cIDK how I would feel if a stranger came to my house with a meal I didn\u2019t ask for.\u201d Others took it even farther. In their eyes, she was \u201ccoddling,\u201d and encouraging \u201cman-child behavior.\u201d Maybe, they wrote, this was her sick way of assuaging her \u201cWhite savior\u201d complex.

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As is the way of the internet, the thread went viral.